Thread by @hasibmn

Ive found that a lot of online drama in the Muslim sphere that we see today stems from... young men in their 20s.

Our teachers taught us

1. Dont speak before youve learned and grounded in all sciences (usually much older)

2. If youre frustrated, relax & dont project

3. Have a spiritual teacher & mentor to keep you in check so youre not ranting w no adab

4. Self development is imp as ilm

I am amazed that someone who hasnt fully studied, can come on social media and blast people who have spent decade plus learning & teaching & then demand that they be heard while they employ the most horrible manners.

They even justify their behavior because "criticism is valid, don't use the adab card."

I genuinely want to say to such men and women:

'You should definitely get married,' but I wouldn't want a spouse to be exposed to such an immature person who doesn't have a grip on themselves, communication skills, or can disagree amicably and with the honor Islam teaches.

If your entire persona is controversy, attacking others, click bait, feeding off your ego to feel self important please do something with your life that's positive and get off the internet

Having teachers is not the same as having mentors who check you

Information Addiction

Adab works only for those who actually are self accountable to use them.

That is what makes adab so important in faith... It's the science of building self control.

Malik who was young when he taught said I got permission from 70 of my teachers before I taught.

He also said I studied adab of Rabiah for 17 years.

He taught in the Prophets Masjid while his teachers were there

Yet even he was an exception, not the norm.

Id have fallen into same problem if it wasn't for the fact we intentionally didnt involve ourselves in social media refuter culture & my teachers impressing on me two things

- not to waste time on facebook
- dont make your learning & development on display by sharing opinions

Just to keep it 💯

Women also have their role to play but I commented on a visibly predominant online persona culture.

This isnt a gender war, let's ask ourselves if upset at what Im saying:

"did it hit close to home?"

"instead of being angry, what can I do to fix myself"

Let's dig deep within & give examples of how bad intentions can become ingrained and subliminal to the extent we may "deny" these problems:

- internally loving attention, being made to feel important, clout is addicting & ego loves & feeds off controversy that gives attention

- Projection:
Having misplaced emotions over something else so instead of dealing w emotions we redirect it to feel relief

Being angry at a failed relationship with a bad man/woman, anger at all men/women

Frustration at being single

Toxic parental upbringing

Being shamed

- Sense of fulfillment

Ive raised awareness

Ive proved someone wrong on the internet and here are my 1k followers to validate what I did as being right.

Instead of seeing how much life we wasted instead of developing, improving, or having something beneficial to offer.

This kind of behavior mimics the person that over eats and turns to food to comfort themselves.

They then dont know why theyre over weight and why they dont have discipline to lose it.

Replace food here with online chatter and refutations

Instead of body think spiritual health