I’ve just gotten off a call with a 34-year-old lady who was sobbing painfully because she doesn’t get attention from men even though she’s pretty and funny.
When her friends insult her, even playfully, they’ll say, “Why do you think you don’t have toasters?”
When her friends insult her, even playfully, they’ll say, “Why do you think you don’t have toasters?”
And when there’s a fight, the words are, “no one wants you.”
First off, I think it’s a psychological/self-esteem issue that many women assume they or other women are worthless because they lack Male attention.
First off, I think it’s a psychological/self-esteem issue that many women assume they or other women are worthless because they lack Male attention.
Your friends and family love you, show you attention but you think you’re not worthy because men haven’t let you know it?
How pitiful!
“Why do you want male attention so bad?” I asked her.
She said, “I’ve been single for too long Ife, I’m tired, I don’t want to grow old alone”
How pitiful!
“Why do you want male attention so bad?” I asked her.
She said, “I’ve been single for too long Ife, I’m tired, I don’t want to grow old alone”
Oh well, her feelings are valid.
“So if that’s it, you don’t need the attention of MANY men. All you need is that one right person, the person that will match your special, the person just hasn’t come yet,” then it occurred to me, “or maybe you haven’t tried to chat him up yet.”
“So if that’s it, you don’t need the attention of MANY men. All you need is that one right person, the person that will match your special, the person just hasn’t come yet,” then it occurred to me, “or maybe you haven’t tried to chat him up yet.”
She laughed and said, “Ife leave me o, I’m not going to toast anybody o, let man come and toast me.”
Again, to each his own. But I don’t know what rule book -Bible, Quran or Nigerian constitution- made that illegal.
After a lot of back and forth, I closed with this:
Again, to each his own. But I don’t know what rule book -Bible, Quran or Nigerian constitution- made that illegal.
After a lot of back and forth, I closed with this:
“Truth is, you don’t need attention from men to feel worthy or pretty. What you need is to pay attention to yourself, your energy, emotional and mental health, get your money and get it good. All of these will make you feel confident in yourself.
One thing that’s instantly more attractive than physical beauty is confidence. And to be confident in yourself, you need to have self-respect and a healthy dose of self-esteem. Then, you’ll understand why you don’t NEED MANY men to be attracted to you.
With this understanding,
With this understanding,
comes a spike in your confidence level. Your smile will come from the heart and you’ll start having genuine fun rather than actively hunting for a man/relationship.
You’ll then understand the saying, “Turtles can’t reach the apples on the tallest trees but giraffes can.”
#DANG
You’ll then understand the saying, “Turtles can’t reach the apples on the tallest trees but giraffes can.”
#DANG
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