Thread by @Mrpossidez

The problem with finding the right person is that for every new person you meet, you have to restrain from going all out, just in case you’re making a mistake and by holding back, you don’t even get to put in the desired effort to make it work in the first place.

Some are lucky with relationships, it seems. Some are not. With the more “wrong” people you meet, the less interested you are in finding out who’s right and who isn’t. You realise there’s a huge part of everything you can’t control.

Unlucky, gradually equals unlikely!

There’s also so much to people that you may never know. You can spend years with a person and still eventually realise that you’ll be making a huge mistake if you settle with them.

Sometimes, what makes them “not right” shows up long after a lot of emotional investment. Scary.

Another problem is that in searching for the right person, many persons come into your life. It gets confusing. You don’t know if you’re making a mistake by cutting off a person who might have turned out right, for someone who may even end up worse. It’s scary.

The more you try, the more the fear of whether the next person wouldn’t turn out like the last. Some people have been dealt a bad hand. They have learned to assume the worst and characterize every that comes their way as a temporary stint.

You can’t blame them. It’s so unfair.

You look inwards, wondering if you’re the problem. When you think about this, you remember a couple of times you were really loved in the past; a person who made you feel you were worth everything. You were never such a bad try, it’s just a process you cannot control.

I guess the point here is that those who have been greatly loved and it all worked out, should count themselves lucky and blessed.

It’s a rough sea where fishes drown or even die of thirst. In the end, we accept to the fact that we can’t control a lot of things.