I can relate so much.
Having a binational relationship is hard as it is, distance, cultural aspects & the little things in life, also if you plan 2 live together, one or both must make huge sacrifices.
My bf&I are frequently experiencing the same issues described in this thread.
It's beyond me why politicians like #Seehofer don't #changethegermanrules. The current workaround can't be easier than deleting two words. There can't be many people affected if @fdpbt only got ~300 mails. It looks like complete lack of compassion.
Please, people, be #decent.
After seeing a bunch of well-meant but increasingly irritating advice that some of us, the #loveisnottourism - communitiy, received & still receives, I decided to share something too.
Why can't we just break up with those partners and move on and make everybody's life easier?
Why are we insisting on making our own lives hell?
Maybe this will shed some light: Have you ever gone through a breakup but you did not want to? That you did not feel relieved but broken?
This is, to some extend, what we've been dealing with for more than 7 months.
Quote:
"Studies [say] the same areas in the brain that light up in imaging scans when we break a leg are activated when we split up w/ our mate. As part of a reaction to a breakup our brain experiences the[ir] departure [..] in a similar way to that in which it registers physical pain.
(1/4) Ich hätte eigentlich nicht gedacht, dass ich mich dazu äußere, aber die Parallelen sind einfach zu krass, wie hier mit Menschen umgegangen wird.
Herr Alter @BMISprecher, ich glaube, Sie haben schon gemerkt, dass die jüngste Kommunikation echt nicht gut lief. So gar nicht.
(2/4) Was haben denn privilegierte Deutsche, die so gut gestellt sind, dass sie im Ausland jemanden kennen und lieben gelernt haben & ja augenscheinlich alles haben & deswegen nur auf ganz hohem Niveau jammern (niemand hat sie schließlich gezwungen, ...
(3/4) ... sich so äußerst #unpraktisch zu verlieben, meine Güte, welch fehlende #Weitsicht!) mit Menschen zu tun, die alles verloren haben & jahrelang zusammengepfercht in einem Lager hausen müssen, wo sie feststecken ohne Perspektive? Mit psychischen und physischen Traumata, ...