I’ve just finished watching “Oloture” and I must say that this is the most creative and realistic ending a Nollywood movie has ever had.
I don’t think the dialogue was smooth and seamless but for the first time, I didn’t dwell on the hitches; the story is quite compelling,
the reality of women being an endangered specie more glaring than I’ve ever seen in a Naija movie, the horror of sex trafficking, revealing.
There was a scene where a man hit a woman right in the middle of a tight Lagos traffic, he carried her on his back and roughly swung her
around until he was able to fling her into a bus. ALL THE WHILE, everyone minded their business, including military men.
Can I tell you about the locations of this movie without revealing too much? The story was told through the locations; so true to life, practical, AUTHENTIC!
Oh @SharonOoja well done. All the actors did so well, even the extras did well too.
I recommend you watch, not to enjoy it because it’s not a fun movie but I hope it moves your heart to participate more in the issues that concern women.
Yesterday on my Insta Story, I asked people to tell me what moment of their life they would take back if they could. 89% of responders (yes, I counted to be sure) out of 536 responses said they wish they hadn’t rushed into marriage when they did.
If you’re already furious at me,
calm down. Let me discount your arguments before I begin:
1. This post isn’t against marriage.
2. If you’re truly happily married, your marriage is a blessing to you and not a source of constant worry, unhappiness and feeling of entrapment, this post isn’t for you.
Why do women rush into marriage just for the sake of it? I researched and asked people as well, especially some of those who responded to the insta story question. Here are some quoted responses:
- “It just seemed like the next step to take, we had dated for so long”
I was seated by the reception desk in 2009 when she waltzed in with the calmest energy, looking like a model. Her hair was shaved so low it was almost bald, she looked stunning!
I said to her immediately she approached the reception desk, “Wow, you’re beautiful.”
I think I made her shy but that’s not my business. 😂
Apparently, she came for an interview in the company and got the job. I immediately befriended her when she resumed even though I didn’t understand then why I was drawn to her.
I know now, her heart radiates so much light, I was bound to be affected by it. She’s the purest of humans, the most patient friend and sister, looking out for me when I don’t ask for it, speaking peace into my life when my heart is experiencing chaos,
I’ve just gotten off a call with a 34-year-old lady who was sobbing painfully because she doesn’t get attention from men even though she’s pretty and funny.
When her friends insult her, even playfully, they’ll say, “Why do you think you don’t have toasters?”
And when there’s a fight, the words are, “no one wants you.”
First off, I think it’s a psychological/self-esteem issue that many women assume they or other women are worthless because they lack Male attention.
Your friends and family love you, show you attention but you think you’re not worthy because men haven’t let you know it?
How pitiful!
“Why do you want male attention so bad?” I asked her.
She said, “I’ve been single for too long Ife, I’m tired, I don’t want to grow old alone”
Earlier today, I missed 4 calls from Beatrice, my housekeeper. I didn’t hear or see my phone ring because I had put my phone in silent mode as I was busy with work.
When I finally checked my phone and saw how many calls I missed from her 10 minutes prior, I got a little worried.
She had just left for the market, I wondered what could be wrong.
I returned Beatrice’ call and she picked up just after the first ring.
“Hello aunty, I don dey call you since o.” Beatrice sounded out of breath, as though she was walking briskly or had just rested from a run.
“What’s the problem? Are you okay?” My tone was calm but my fingers crossed.
“Ah,” she chuckled, “nothing much happen o. I forget fry goat meat for on top sink,I no remember to put am back for freezer. I say make I quick call you make you no chop am.”
Before the year runs out, call to schedule these three doctor appointments:
See a Dentist:
Experts recommend regular check-ups and teeth cleanings to help spot issues early on. Regular cleaning and check up appointments should be every six months or at least once a year.
See an OB-GYN: A routine ob-gyn appointment should include a pelvic exam, Pap smear (one every three to five years), and breast exam. Preventative gynecology appointments help catch problems earlier that may develop over time.
I know I’ve said this before, but I’d like to remind you. Stop saying “Sorry” when what you’re truly doing is asking for permission to speak, to breathe, to exercise your right to exist.
“Sorry but I disagree”
Meaning: Give me permission to disagree.
Instead: I disagree.
“Sorry I have to complain about this.”
Meaning: I don’t like what is going on but please ALLOW me to complain and I apologise.
Instead: Thank you for listening, here are my complaints/grievances.
“Sorry could you repeat that?”
Meaning: I didn’t hear you, I’m not dumb I promise.
Instead: I don’t mean to take us back but I would like you to take that point again. Thank you.
“Sorry, please don’t forget to send in the report.”
Meaning: We’re on a project together, I need the report to push this forward, forgive me for doing my job.