pc @noampomsky
imo one massive secret is the shortest path from self-centered jerk to being effortlessly affectionate basically all the time isnt that long. I love this video, but it only show you what warm is, not how to get there yourself (so it’s effortless)
The best heuristic I know is “do you catch yourself accidentally ruminating over wishing others success on their terms” maybe 1/2 the people I’ve asked never do. It’s hard to intellectually force yourself to care your whole life if you don’t instinctually (lucky it’s changeable)
The people I know who did find a way to be a lot more tender basically ended up having way wholistically better lives than if they’d nailed their now obsolete previous object level goal (eg make 500k/yr, raise from a fancy vc fund)
I wish school took like an hour at some point to tell you just how crazy plastic your psychology can be. People never learn it is. Your entire life may revolve around an inner voice but you can fully get rid of it. You might think selfishness is a law of nature but it ain’t
You can fully remove your death down to your core. You can legitimately care more about reducing the suffering of a stranger than you care about your own. You can be feel glee at giving part of your hard-earned salary away as anonymous unconditional philanthropy
Like I could imagine a 1hr lecture telling kids that virtually everything they think is immutable about their psychology may not be that hard to change being the best part of their whole k12, make them hate their bad parts less, and fill them with hope for their future
Most importantly, you can actually love yourself, feel the same overflowing unconditional affection a mother feels for her newborn, and you can feel it every minute of your life
Your fear or death* whoops. I’m a dyslexic typo machine and I have accepted this
of* ❤️🌟🎉
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