What is the simplest way to move into calm, aware presence? 4 steps in 4 tweets.
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1. Pay attention to the space inside you and become hyper aware of what is going on, what triggers you etc.
When we notice and name our triggers, we move from being in their grip to having them in ours. Then we can pause and give them to God. Easier tweeted than done.
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2. Give equal attention to the space between you and another. Pay special attention to recurring, predictable patterns between you. Define your contribution to the problem. What 'more of the same' and 'try harder' are you applying that is not working or making it worse?
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3. Clarify responsibility. Anxiety wants to blame and avoid. But The Gospel invites us to see what is really there.
What is yours to own? What is theirs? What is God's?
Much relational anxiety is generated when we want to change the other, rather than work on ourselves.
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4. Pause to remember God. The most frequent command in the Bible: Fear Not. Another frequent command: Remember.
Remember that God is with you, God is at work. God is already working in the space where you are anxious and the space you are entering.
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Active displacement of anxiety with the awareness of God's good and active presence is a spiritual discipline few talk about.
But anxiety invades the space where we are aware of God. Reclaim that territory!
And let the peace of Christ flood you today.
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The excellent @thebowencenter posted on their FB wall an excellent 'check list' of anxiety. We could all do to pause, and check ourselves against this list:
Dial up the anxiety, and people start to:
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• Become increasingly suspicious.
• Feel more sensitive when others disagree.
• Provoke people to get a reaction.
• Block out information that challenges their view.
• Discard their beliefs to please the group.
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• Act helpless.
• Label one person as the problem.
• Alternate between attacking and avoiding problems.
• View problems as more simplistic than they actually are.
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If you're stuck in a recurring, predictable toxic pattern with someone, your temptation is to focus on them - all the things they are doing to make it worse. But #SystemsTheory teaches us to take responsibility for what we can own. By pausing, we can break toxic patterns.
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Rather than spend energy on 'them' you can pause and run a few powerful steps.
1. Map out the actual problem.
Many people stay stuck because they haven't clarified the ACTUAL problem. Sometimes a 'problem' is actually 5 interrelated problems.
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Our KidMin was struggling with volunteers cancelling on Sat night. That feels like the problem, but when you tease it out, it is several interrelated problems.
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John says 'perfect love casts out fear.' Perfect love displaces fear. And I think fear can displace our awareness and experience of perfect love. It cannot displace God's love, but it sure can displace our awareness of it.
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Knowing you're in anxiety's grip is actually difficult, but you can learn to notice it when you are no longer aware of God's presence and God's love. It could be that your anxiety has displaced your awareness of God's love.
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Signs of it:
- you start to think it is all on you/all on your shoulders.
- 'if it is to be, it is up to me.' An anxious statement if ever I heard one.
- An impending feeling of doom or hopelessness.
- Rigid thinking, either-or locked in thinking
- double binding.
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At some point for most Christians, we have to wrestle legalism to the ground. For some it is a nagging issue, for others it is plaguing, and for some it is utter paralyzing.
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As a pastor, I have heard thousands of testimonies of people. It is one of the dearest privileges of being a pastor - that people would share their walk with Christ with me, how they have encountered grace etc.
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For people who spent more than 7 years in a church, they mention legalism. They say something like, 'I was raised in a legalistic church, but now I am on the hunt for grace.' Of course, they have much more to say, but for twitter, that is the basic summary.
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A couple of other wonderful covers for Wednesday. I love how Youtube has even the playing field for talented people to get noticed. Below are three of my favorite YouTube artists who nail their covers.....1/
Matt Anderson covering Springsteen's smoldering 'I'm on Fire' with a fantastic slow runway approach and culminating in a fantastic sonic boom.
Josh Turner is a craftsman and all his covers are exactly just right. He also exudes such joy when he plays. Here is the gateway drug to JT:
Knowing when you are in anxiety's grip is not as easy as we might think. One sign is that you no longer notice God's presence.
Chronic Anxiety has a gospel, various forms of 'its all on you' along with some messages of doom. Your inner critic is often the messenger boy.
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If you can begin to notice when you no longer notice God's presence, when you act like it is all on you, you can pause, talk a deep breath or five and remember two great realities:
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1. It is not all on you. God is with you.
2. Better yet, God is already at work in the situation you're anxious about. You will enter a situation where God is and is already at work.
So often we think we're 'bringing God with us.' Nope. God is already there.
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