Yesterday, we all saw a video of Omoh F., a Nigerian soldier assaulting a woman because he had his uniform on and he had a belt. Simply put, he assaulted her because he could.

While this was going on, a young man in the audience repeatedly said to the lady being assaulted,
“He can be your husband o...respect him.”

A woman is being assaulted, another man asked her to stop arguing simply because, in another life, this assaulter could be married to her which automatically gives him the right to beat her while she’s OBLIGATED to take it.
Therein lies the reason we say patriarchy is ingrained in our society. Not only do men hold the power, but it is also generally expected for them to wield it as they please without repercussions.

This brings me to my question: WHY IS FEMINISM STILL REBUFFED BY MANY WOMEN?
How do you speak against your ilk when it could easily have been you, your daughter, sister or best friend? Can’t you see that these men who think they’re better than you are in the same group as white supremacists?
How do you as women see our fight against “patriarchy” as the hysterical war cry of feminists rather than a fight for us to be seen as though they’re looking at their fellow men and treat us like that as well?

If most women had joined this fight, maybe Omoh F.,
the Military aggressor would have respected the lady as he would have respected a man...just maybe.

Patriarchy was once GENERALLY considered perfectly acceptable but Feminists are now fighting for a forward motion of human progress – SEE ME AS HAVING THE SAME RIGHT AS YOU.
Women who know about Patriarchy but see no need to fight for its end, ask yourself this question: What would the world be like if Patriarchy didn’t exist?

Feminists imagine this world, this is why we consistently fight with renewed vigour; we must experience EQUAL RIGHTS!
If all women raised their voices to fight against social norms that hinder gender equity and foster violence, the government will not have a choice but to address this issue.

Dear women, I know you don’t want to be labelled ‘nasty or angry?’ but think about it this way,
How many men are labelled nasty or angry for fighting for their rights?

If you can’t find any, then understand that those are mere words that are intentionally intended to connote negativity for the sole purpose of suppressing your voice.

#DANG

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