The aggression playing out in social media is rooted in our culture of hierarchical, dominance-based masculinity, playing out minus the countervailing moderation found in personal interactions (we know you, we will see you again). In this way, social media is a Rorschach test. /1
Social media's lack of accountability, (very few face consequences) means that men and women, bullied and socialized into aligning with dominance culture use highly abusive language, mirroring their own abuse. In this way, social media reveals a persons level of early trauma. /2
This dangerous space allows people to calcify and express abusive racist and sexist frames in relative anonymity. Any remaining social restrictions dissipate. They are drawn to communities that mirror that language. It feels like belonging. /3
THREAD: Trump will only get worse. Domination culture allows authoritarian leaders one path forward. To keep doubling down on violence and domination. That's the entire repertoire of options. Trump and his base have declared war on our democratic institutions. It will not end. /1
We must understand the fundamental threat posed by Trump's authoritarians who now control the Republican party. White nationalism and authoritarianism dictate that they not only win, but destroy any who are not aligned with their racist, sexist agenda. This is the end game. /2
If we fail to investigate and prosecute the corruption, crimes, and human rights violations of the Trump administration our Republic is finished. /3
Dominance-based authoritarians like Trump hold immense power until the moment in which it starts to slip away. Then they lose it with shocking speed as the cowards that supported him flee the legal and political ramifications of his actions. /1
Because Trump's power is rooted in domination for its own sake, his actions will never be consistent. In fact, hypocrisy is central to how authoritarians assert their dominance, saying in effect, "I don't care what I said yesterday, I answer to no one." /2
Two things need to be understood. Trump is not the source of GOP authoritarianism. He is the figurehead. NEVER FORGET, because of it's collective four year silence the GOP INVESTED in Trump's strong man white nationalism, trading our democratic rights for his power grab. /3
THREAD: Domination Culture is What the GOP is Selling --
We’re up against a deadly dangerous enemy, and we’re still asking the wrong questions. medium.com/@remakingmanho… /1
As the Republican Party leans more and more into what seem to be impossibly contradictory positions, we need to understand Trump’s base isn’t about what’s rational. It’s about the visceral pleasure of domination. /2
It was repellent to me, when, during the 2016 primary, Trump created nasty little nick names for every other GOP candidate. Back then, the first time I heard him call Marco Rubio “Little Marco” I was disgusted. This was straight up playground bully talk. /3
THREAD: I Do the Housework --
Why millions of men can’t muster the empathy to understand this issue shocks me. medium.com/@remakingmanho… /1
I’m a college educated white male. I have a deeply satisfying professional/personal life. I’m responsible for washing dishes, cooking, cleaning bathrooms, laundry, and general house cleaning. There are days when it is joyful and there are days when it feels bleak/oppressive. /2
I can not imagine what lifetimes of this work felt like for women of my mother’s generation. Trapped doing decades of this relentless invisible work. How it must have driven many women mad. /3
I'm primarily responsible for washing dishes, cooking, cleaning bathrooms, laundry, and general house cleaning. There are days when it is joyful and there are days when it feels bleak and oppressive. I CAN NOT IMAGINE what lifetimes felt like for women of my mother's generation.
Women of my mother's generation had a lifetime of this work forced on them, work which grew exponentially with each birth, many of which were unplanned. I'm looking at a few years of the current arrangement for a family of 3. My mother did it for 7 people for three decades.
If I had to stare down that 30 year tunnel, knowing full well my economic security hung in the balance, that my husband was missing in action much of the time, I'm not sure I would survive it. Men, do ALL the housework for a year. Only then will you understand what I'm getting at