My latest essay is about trauma, grief, perimenopause, pandemic, and revolution.

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A pandemic, like revolution, does not happen overnight. I have to remind myself that softness drives the revolution as much as rage. 

I refuse to emerge as if unscathed. I insist that we all be scathed, that we refuse to be the people we were at the start of the pandemic. Learning to sit in the fear and chaos and learning to be fri
And now in this year of pandemic and perimenopause, this grief anniversary is the hand brake to the car in my mind, screeching in its insistence that I remember to sit with the fear and chaos.

We cannot reverse. We will emerge, our hearts unhealed and scarred but awesome. We will emerge, our hearts unhealed and scarred but awesome.
Last week, my mind felt like a car trying to drive with the hand brake on. And there was nothing to do but sit with it, screeching and all.

The way you fall apart as a feminist is to say FUCK YOU I SURVIVED, and release the hand brake, finally, and move into the fear and chaos.
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20 Nov
#Egyptian regime crackdown continues against human rights group @EIPR after staff met with Western ambassadors in #Cairo.

Security Forces arrested executive director Gasser Abdel-Razek from his home on Thursday, the 3rd employee arrested this week…
I’ve known Gasser since the 1990s when I was a Reuters correspondent in Cairo who would often call him at the Hisham Mubarak Centre to comment on cases.

He is one of the most sincere and big-hearted activists I have ever met. He truly loves Egypt and the fight for its liberation
Gasser’s detention comes after Egyptian security forces detained two other EIPR employees:

Karim Ennarah, the head of the group's criminal justice department, was arrested Wednesday while spending vacation in Dahab, Sinai, His whereabouts and the charges he faces are unknown.
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20 Nov
I think twice, thrice, and often more before I share moments of vulnerability on social media. When you’re a feminist accustomed to having the dogs of patriarchy let loose on you, you become more comfortable with vowing to bring pain to your enemies than to admitting to your own.
But I have learned to do both: be on the lookout for the dogs of patriarchy, ready to kick their teeth in, and also keep my pain soft. Unfailingly, and surprisingly, when I do share my pain, it is held with such care and love by my tribe of total strangers and comrades online...
...that I have to remind myself that softness drives the revolution as much as rage.…
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18 Nov
Feminism is not easy or nice; it is fire and a fight. I am not playing; I am here to destroy. Feminism is the destruction of patriarchy; daily, because patriarchy will not be packing up and leaving, never to return, when the polls close.…
Feminism demands. A lot. It demands more than equality with cisgender heterosexual men. Men are not my yardstick. If men themselves are not free of the ravages of racism, capitalism and other forms of oppression, it is not enough to say I want to be equal to them.
Feminism is not about doing what men do or being what men can be. I do not want what men have. I want much more.

I want to be free. That is a demand I make daily.
Read 4 tweets
18 Nov
#Egyptian activists arrested for contact with western diplomats, @hrw Human Rights Watch says.

The arrests were a 'slap in the face' to the Western countries whose diplomats met the civil society group…
Karim Ennarah, who is the director of criminal justice at advocacy group @EIPR Egyptian Initiative for Personal Rights, was detained in the resort town of Dahab, three days after the arrest of EIPR’s administrative director Mohamed Basheer on Sunday. #Egypt
“All signs indicate this is orchestrated at the highest level” #Egypt
Read 4 tweets
18 Nov
I never wanted children and I am childfree by choice so #ThxBirthControl - all of the various methods I’ve used.
My maternal grandmother was pregnant 14 times. She had 11 children, the eldest of whom is my mother who has 3 children, the eldest of whom is me.

I am happily childfree by choice. #ThxBirthControl
I wish I could talk to my grandmother so that I can hear from her what it was like to be pregnant 14 times. I was 13 yo when she died and had not had that conversation with her.

My paternal grandmother had eight children.

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17 Nov
Once again extolling the nonsensical and toxic fuckery of “civility” and “unity,” which much like toxic positivity, demands we delude ourselves into a lockstep that benefits who?

Biden hopes to avoid divisive Trump investigations, preferring unity.…
Two days after the election, and before Biden was declared winner, I wrote about this obsession with “unity” and “civility”…
“My concern if Joe Biden wins the presidency is that the white liberals who spent the Trump era crying  “This isn’t my America” (sidenote: WHAT FUCKING AMERICA HAVE YOU BEEN LIVING IN?) will now celebrate “My America is back!” and go on amnesia overdrive.”
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