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A few years ago we were in a terrible marriage :(
❌Our house wasn’t a home, it was a war zone
❌we didn’t speak days at a time
Last night my wife told me,
“You are my hero, seeing you better yourself every day has made me want to do the same.
Thank you for leading us.” ❤️
A few years ago we were in a terrible marriage :(
❌Our house wasn’t a home, it was a war zone
❌we didn’t speak days at a time
Last night my wife told me,
“You are my hero, seeing you better yourself every day has made me want to do the same.
Thank you for leading us.” ❤️
-We had said the D word
-All we have almost wasn’t
-My daughter could’ve not had a dad around :(
Men,
it all starts with you!!💪
🔥Take extreme ownership of every area & WIN at your family at all costs!
✅Here’s 17 things that helped us that maybe you can find value in:
-All we have almost wasn’t
-My daughter could’ve not had a dad around :(
Men,
it all starts with you!!💪
🔥Take extreme ownership of every area & WIN at your family at all costs!
✅Here’s 17 things that helped us that maybe you can find value in:
Everyones situation is unique
but hopefully you can takeaway something from these
🔥We need loving homes & present strong families now more than ever!
1) Prioritize your family above all else!
This means making a CHOICE to
-watch less TV
-work less
-set boundaries with friends
but hopefully you can takeaway something from these
🔥We need loving homes & present strong families now more than ever!
1) Prioritize your family above all else!
This means making a CHOICE to
-watch less TV
-work less
-set boundaries with friends
2) We quit “watching a show” every night in bed
Sitting in silence watching a show every night is a crappy excuse 2 connect.
We quit:
❌Cable
❌Netflix
❌HBOGO
❌Hulu
If we watch something now,
we are learning together!
We are interacting!
❌No TV in bed,
✅ only😴 & 👉👌🔥❤️
Sitting in silence watching a show every night is a crappy excuse 2 connect.
We quit:
❌Cable
❌Netflix
❌HBOGO
❌Hulu
If we watch something now,
we are learning together!
We are interacting!
❌No TV in bed,
✅ only😴 & 👉👌🔥❤️
3) I took extreme ownership
I read @jockowillink📚& applied the lessons to my marriage
-She’s not doing something I like, then it’s ON ME to communicate better
-Every aspect of our relationship is on me
-0 excuses ever
Comes down 2 being a BOY vs being a MAN & taking ownership
I read @jockowillink📚& applied the lessons to my marriage
-She’s not doing something I like, then it’s ON ME to communicate better
-Every aspect of our relationship is on me
-0 excuses ever
Comes down 2 being a BOY vs being a MAN & taking ownership
4) Credit to @FitFounder on this🙏
✅Create a family vision board
✅Talk about shared goals & dreams
✅Share victories everyday & make this a normal part of conversation
✅Audit goals & measure success
✅We hire a sitter every week for 3 hours so my wife & I have OUR TIME!❤️🔥
✅Create a family vision board
✅Talk about shared goals & dreams
✅Share victories everyday & make this a normal part of conversation
✅Audit goals & measure success
✅We hire a sitter every week for 3 hours so my wife & I have OUR TIME!❤️🔥
5) We saw a counselor & got professional help & tips from an expert.
It was critical having a mediator that helped us break thru & get out of our own way.
We got into ruts & what we now refer to as the crazy cycle.
She helped us identify them & defeat them before they spiraled.
It was critical having a mediator that helped us break thru & get out of our own way.
We got into ruts & what we now refer to as the crazy cycle.
She helped us identify them & defeat them before they spiraled.
6) Model the behaviors I desire
@limitlessleila said,
“You are better off not preaching behaviors if you won’t live them out”
This challenged me so much.
I can’t ask my wife to do things I’m not doing!
✅Putting her 1st ALWAYS!
✅NEVER COMPLAINING🔥
✅Intentional listening
@limitlessleila said,
“You are better off not preaching behaviors if you won’t live them out”
This challenged me so much.
I can’t ask my wife to do things I’m not doing!
✅Putting her 1st ALWAYS!
✅NEVER COMPLAINING🔥
✅Intentional listening
7) Do some activities apart!
🔥We give each other time away to refill & recharge.
🔥A guys night out or girls weekend is always welcomed & accepted with NO GUILT!!
🔥We take at least a trip a year apart
🔥Absence makes the heart grow fonder & we always come back recharged❤️
🔥We give each other time away to refill & recharge.
🔥A guys night out or girls weekend is always welcomed & accepted with NO GUILT!!
🔥We take at least a trip a year apart
🔥Absence makes the heart grow fonder & we always come back recharged❤️
8) Keep family & friends out of disagreements!
This was a big problem,
❌We would disagree & she would call her mom & get validated
❌Simultaneously I called mine & got the same (Don’t do this men🤦♂️)
If we have problems,
✅We communicate with each other & keep it in house!!
This was a big problem,
❌We would disagree & she would call her mom & get validated
❌Simultaneously I called mine & got the same (Don’t do this men🤦♂️)
If we have problems,
✅We communicate with each other & keep it in house!!
9) Men only: Listen & validate don’t fix!
Our instincts when she’s sharing a struggle is:
❌Fix
❌Get defensive
She’s not wanting us to fix,
Its her way of connecting & sharing life💡
✅Listen & validate her
✅Let her know you care instead of quickly responding to do this!
Our instincts when she’s sharing a struggle is:
❌Fix
❌Get defensive
She’s not wanting us to fix,
Its her way of connecting & sharing life💡
✅Listen & validate her
✅Let her know you care instead of quickly responding to do this!
10) Be adventurous & playful
I’ll share a tame one,
use your imagination for others!
We take our rings off & after I drop her at the door I’ll meet her at the bar and pick her up!
❤️She enjoys being pursued like when we were dating!
❤️Led to many different fun scenarios👉👌🔥
I’ll share a tame one,
use your imagination for others!
We take our rings off & after I drop her at the door I’ll meet her at the bar and pick her up!
❤️She enjoys being pursued like when we were dating!
❤️Led to many different fun scenarios👉👌🔥
11) Mandatory date Nights with no kids!
🔥Have fun together
🔥Laugh go out & be silly
At home it can get so monotonous
-did u pack lunches
-get laundry done
-I took the trash out etc etc
❤️Each week we hire sitters and go out for a fun adult only date night to connect & grow!
🔥Have fun together
🔥Laugh go out & be silly
At home it can get so monotonous
-did u pack lunches
-get laundry done
-I took the trash out etc etc
❤️Each week we hire sitters and go out for a fun adult only date night to connect & grow!
12) Quit porn! @devinmcdermot
I always justified it as
-Stress reliever
-Not a big deal
BUT
I knew deep down it was harmful to my marriage
❌Porn is cheap dopamine & the equivalent of eating unhealthy fast food
✅Be the honorable Man you want to be even when no one is around
I always justified it as
-Stress reliever
-Not a big deal
BUT
I knew deep down it was harmful to my marriage
❌Porn is cheap dopamine & the equivalent of eating unhealthy fast food
✅Be the honorable Man you want to be even when no one is around
13) Connect with fun, physical activities as a family
✅We do family dance contests
✅Read books at sunset after long walks each night
✅bike rides
✅Relay races with our dog :)
✅Plank challenges
✅Swim
✅Hike
🔥Give your family the gifts of:
-Intentional time
-health ❤️💪
✅We do family dance contests
✅Read books at sunset after long walks each night
✅bike rides
✅Relay races with our dog :)
✅Plank challenges
✅Swim
✅Hike
🔥Give your family the gifts of:
-Intentional time
-health ❤️💪
14) @themanslife said
“take your family on adventures!”
I have embraced that & I lead my family on:
✅challenging hikes
✅picnics & sunset walks
✅scavenger hunts
✅fun date nights with the wife🔥
🔥We create fun & challenging adventures!
🔥In doing so we grow closer as a unit!
“take your family on adventures!”
I have embraced that & I lead my family on:
✅challenging hikes
✅picnics & sunset walks
✅scavenger hunts
✅fun date nights with the wife🔥
🔥We create fun & challenging adventures!
🔥In doing so we grow closer as a unit!
15) Speak life to one another, leave positive notes, write love letters ❤️
❌A few years ago we never actively built one another up.
✅Now, it’s our mission to try & give one another energy🐉& show gratitude for all the other does!!
✅We share victories & talk about blessings!!
❌A few years ago we never actively built one another up.
✅Now, it’s our mission to try & give one another energy🐉& show gratitude for all the other does!!
✅We share victories & talk about blessings!!
17) Men,
Seek other men that can you can share community with
We need other men to help us navigate life at times & lean into
✅I have two groups that study the Bible & share life together.
✅I’m grateful for & seek men like @ZachHomol to help me & give wise counsel & advice🙏
Seek other men that can you can share community with
We need other men to help us navigate life at times & lean into
✅I have two groups that study the Bible & share life together.
✅I’m grateful for & seek men like @ZachHomol to help me & give wise counsel & advice🙏
🔥Having a connected on fire marriage & spouse that supports you is the biggest life hack!!
“They are no longer two, but one flesh.
What God has joined together,
let no one separate.”
Mathew 19:6
Follow:
@dovidfeldman
@StrongMarriage5
@limitlessleila
for daily advice too!🔥❤️
“They are no longer two, but one flesh.
What God has joined together,
let no one separate.”
Mathew 19:6
Follow:
@dovidfeldman
@StrongMarriage5
@limitlessleila
for daily advice too!🔥❤️
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