Thread by @CuraNetwork

@spiecy_diecy @DrOlufunmilayo Women do not enjoy PHYSICAL ABUSE!

Some reasons women stay in abusive relationships include:

1. Distorted Thoughts. Being controlled and hurt is traumatizing, and this leads to confusion, doubts, and even self-blame.

@spiecy_diecy @DrOlufunmilayo Perpetrators harass and accuse victims, which wears them down and causes despair and guilt.3 For example, women shared: “I believed I deserved it,” and, “I was ashamed, embarrassed, and blamed myself because I thought I triggered him.”

@spiecy_diecy @DrOlufunmilayo 2. Damaged Self-Worth. Many women felt beaten down and of no value, saying: “He made me believe I was worthless and alone,” and, “I felt I had done something wrong and I deserved it.”

@spiecy_diecy @DrOlufunmilayo 3. Fear. The threat of bodily and emotional harm is powerful, and abusers use this to control and keep women trapped. One lady once said: “I was afraid of him…I knew he’d make leaving an ugly drawn-out nightmare.” Attempting to leave an abuser is dangerous.

@spiecy_diecy @DrOlufunmilayo 4. Wanting to be a Savior. Many described a desire to help, or love their partners with the hopes that they could change them: “I believed I could love the abuse out of him.”

Another said "I thought i could fix him and teach him love.”

@spiecy_diecy @DrOlufunmilayo Others include

-Financial Constraint
-Isolation
- Family, Friends, and Public Expectations and Experiences

No lady loves physical abuse, please! Let's delete that narrative.

@spiecy_diecy @DrOlufunmilayo Abuse' is not limited to being "beaten".

There is absolutely NO reason to return to a relationship where you're being ABUSED!

Abuse can be physical, emotional, or sexual.
Physical abuse means any form of violence, such as hitting, punching, pulling hair, and kicking.