Thread by @RealNaijaGuy

Why do new year resolutions not work and what exactly should you do to make 2021 a great year? (Thread)

It is three days to the end of 2020 and as is standard practice for millions of people, they'll make new year resolutions.

Resolutions that they abandon after 2 weeks

I sincerely believe that when we make these resolutions, we are serious about them.

We rally want the change.

But why do we revert to type I'm a short while?

And what is the better to own your life in 2021?

Think about this:

Have you ever tried installing a software on a computer and got this message:

"This Operating system is not compatible with the software"?

And no matter what you do, the software won't just install...

Until you upgrade the operating system?

This, exactly, is the reason new year resolutions don't work.

What many people try to do is to install new lifestyle (software) on a mindset (OS) that is not compatible with it.

You need to realise that you are your mind.

You will always fall back to default settings and programmings in your mind, even though you are hungry for a new lifestyle.

The first step is to upgrade your mind!

Not work harder, but improve your mindset.

You need to go back to fix two things:

1. What you believe.

2. What you value.

If you believe that things are hard, your mind will not see simple opportunities that can turn your life around!

Your mind will always look for the hard things that will not produce results because you already believe in 'hardness.'

You need to learn to question things.

And this is where I will challenge us religious folk.

This may be a sensitive area, but for many people, what makes them never achieve anything is how much delusion religion has fed them.

I won't tell you what to believe. What I'll tell you is:

Study about what you believe to a deep level and with an open mind.

Don't just take random interpretations of people you respect.

Even after Paul the apostle preached, the Berean Christians went back to confirm/

If what he taught was true.

Study to know things for yourself.

Stop being a blind person led by the blind.

- Another area of your life where you need to alter your belief system is money.

Wealth can be learnt. Business can be learnt. Success is a science, it can be learnt

Become deliberate about understanding money.

Study.

Study financial markets.

Study investments.

Study about money. Don't assume you know it.

Study how to make it, keep it and grow it.

- the third area of belief you need to work on is relationship.

Some of us are terrible people (no insults intended)

But deep down, we know we have terrible characters, but we want others to be nice to us.

Beliefs like 'men are scum,' 'women are bitches,' are doing you more harm than good.

Learn to believe that you attract good people into your life.

Believe there is love and trust.

Study human behaviour to understand motives.

To succeed, you'll need people.

2. Your values.

You know why we never achieve our goals?

They are not congruent with our values.

You will always act in manners consistent with your values.

Your values are things that are important to you.

You need to be absolutely clear about what is important to you, because that is where your time will always go to.

Fix your religious, money and relationship beliefs.

Clarify your values (what's truly important to you)

Then you'll be a better person, take better action, get better results and have a better year.