A lot of men take things too personal. They complain that the girl is at fault when really they're just touchy, insecure and emotional guys. You can't have long term, low drama relationships with women if you don't learn emotional control.
You can't have long term, low drama relationships if you get furiously jealous every time she talks to another guy.
If you explode into a million pieces every time she says something you don't like.
If you always think you're in love with a woman when really you have Oneitis
When a guy comes to me for advise about a particular woman, I've noticed that a good deal of you simply have fragile egos. Everything upsets you. Everything gets to you.
Your prissy little feelings are always being hurt...
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In some scenarios you'll see that the woman even seems to have more emotional control and calm than the man. This is not an ideal situation. If anybody should be losing their head, it should be the girl...not you my brothers
Learn how to calm down
Learn how to stop giving a shit
Learn that she's a woman and she says absolute bullocks that makes no sense to you as a man, therefore it deserves no seriousness from your part
If a child says the same thing, you won't notice
Your relationship with a woman isn't about her. It's about your long term happiness. If she's not conducive to your long term happiness then she needs to go.
This doesn't mean you're a selfish bastard. It just means you shift your focus.
Stop focusing on every little thing she does and instead focus more on yourself, be self aware
This self awareness allows you to know when you're taking shit too personally or when you should simply ignore it. It allows you to know when you actually have no valid reason to be upset and your ego is just working against you
Emotional control is a core aspect of being Zen
Don't be an NCA, unless you like the drama, stress, easily hurt egos and such
The typical and unhappy Nigerian woman isn't clinging to her husband out of love. Marriages last in Nigeria not because of anything special. It's seems to last here because in economically risky countries, divorce isn't common. Women fear moving out on their own
Women in Nigeria stay in marriages not because they want to, but because they don't have the money to leave. Think about that next time someone wants to use a marriage that has lasted long as a marriage that is also happy
I'm not saying there aren't long lasting, happy marriages... I'm saying they aren't in the majority. Most marriages of today that have lasted long aren't happy. They're tolerant and tired.