Thread by @GbengaWemimo

She met him at a concert
She was a singer and he was an admirer
It was at a Christian event
She finished her rendition to a huge round of applause
and some kind words by the pastor
When it was time for her to go home she stayed at the bus stop waiting for a taxi
He drove up to

her and asked her where she was going
She had seen him at the event
He was one of those admirers whose face betrayed their feelings
She knew he really liked her performance
She had also learned from experience that some people fall in love with the personality on the stage but

wouldn't be able to stand that same personality in real life
She was a talented singer but the singer is different from the everyday girl
She wouldn't have given him the time of day if she was sure a taxi was coming anytime soon
She swallowed her pride and got in the car
He told

her he was a fan
She said she knew
He told her he had consistently followed her career and made time to be at almost all the events where she had been invited to perform
She shook her head
He laughed and then he began to mention event and date and what she wore and what she sang

He was either a stalker or a true admirer
The ride was so pleasant that she didn't want it to end
She was the one that offered him her phone number
She was the one that made him drop her at home and even showed him her flat
She would have invited him in if he asked
She was that

smitten by him
He didn't ask because it would seem creepy
So after he had parked his car, he urged her to stay a little with him in the car before alighting
He reclined the driver's seat and she did the same with her seat
He played a soft gospel song and they just laid there and

gave the moment its magic
They were there for almost an hour
From 7pm till around 8pm
They spoke a little in that hour
She spoke about her mixing her academics (She was a student of Yabatech, with her tailoring (she had a shop at Yaba where she sewed curtains) & her music career

He spoke about the day he heard her sing for the first time and what her music did to his heart
He also talked about his determination to get to meet and know her before going into any relationship
He said he wanted to be sure she wasn't the one before moving on
He was totally

devoted to her
She fell in love that night
She didn't plan to but she did
Her mother died when she was three years old
She grew up with her grandparents and had learned to fend for herself from an early age because her grandparents were not that rich
She had never known love in

any capacity but as she laid down on that car seat and listened to him
She heard the mood and the texture of his voice
She heard the sincerity of his heart
She heard the depth of his love
She heard his devotion to her even when she didn't know he existed
Something happened to her

heart
It began to buzz in a strange way
It grew warm and fuzzy and swoony
She fought very hard to hold back her tears
She was loved by a total stranger and he was able to convince her of his love without asking her out or trying to get anything from her
It was for her love at its

purest form
When she eventually alighted from the car, she could barely stand
Her knees were weak
Her feelings had tied her up in knots
He drove away and she went home daydreaming about them
The next day he was back as early as 7AM
He said he couldn't sleep all night
It was the

same for her
She just wanted to be with him
He took her to her shop that morning before going to his office
He was working with an international logistics company
They were together every day of that week
He picked her in the mornings and dropped her off in the evening
it was the

best week of her life
When she got to church that Sunday, the pastor invited her into his office and said "I saw you during the week while i was praying. I saw you with a young man. you have grown very fond of this young man and you are already dreaming of a future with him...

She told the pastor what he said was true
The pastor said "He is not your husband, this union will bring you much grief and sorrow, it will be wise of you to walk away from it now"
She was shocked but she nodded her head and said "Thank you, sir"
The guy had not asked her out

no commitment has been made verbally but emotions were running high and intentions were as plain as day
It is only a matter of time before he would state his intentions and she had planned to say a very loud YES to whatever future he offered to share with her.
it was a tough day

He came around to pick her the following day
Immediately she got into the car, he said "I have something to say to you. When I got to church yesterday, one of our pastors, the one heading the prayer department called me aside and warned me about being with you. He didn't say much

He just called me into the prayer room and said "You met a lady recently, do not pursue a relationship with her. She is not your wife. Bless her and let her go
She busted into tears right there and then
It was the thought that plagued her mind all night
She had prayed, tossed and

turned all night asking the Holy Spirit to confirm the word through her pastor or send a contrary word to her.
She would usually hear the word of the Lord for herself but she was too invested in the issue to be objective!
He cried too, bitterly
He wondered why God would not even

give their young love a chance to blossom
She wondered the same
He drove her to her shop
She waited two hours and wrote him a thank you text
She said she believed they are better off as friends and wouldn't want to encourage him to keep coming around because it would lead to no

good
He got the message and didn't come around to pick her later that day
She missed him and mourned for the future she had imagined
A future that God killed prematurely
Another year of struggle went by
He kept in touch but from a distance
She met a man, a music promoter who took

interest in her work
He paid for studio sessions and all and invested so much in her career
It was a business relationship without any intimate entanglement
She was in the studio working at releasing her debut album when she heard that he was getting married
She fainted!

Everybody assumed it was from exhaustion but she knew better
It stung her like a bee
Even she didn't know she was nursing the hope that things would change and they would be allowed to be together
She couldn't continue her work on the album for another two weeks
It was tough!

Eventually, her sponsor got concerned enough to find out what was wrong
She told him, someone, she used to be in love with got married and it threw her off balance
He tried his best to comfort her
Eventually, she returned to work and finished the album
The album launch was a good

success
Three weeks after the Album launch, her sponsor proposed
She had zero romantic feelings for him
He was eight years older than her and they had very little in common
She didn't even pray about it
She told herself he was only pitying her or trying to marry the talent that

will keep making him money
When she got to the church, the choirmaster said "I smell a fragrance of love, someone here is getting married", another singer in the choir said "i saw a bouquet of flower overnight with two names written on it "Kingsley and Bidemi"
She was Bidemi and

her sponsor was Kingsley
It was enough to make her pay attention
She decided to get serious about it in the place of prayer
The following Sunday, she invited her sponsor to church
When her pastor saw him, he said "Welcome, our husband"
She almost screamed with embarrassment

They got married immediately after their marriage counseling session which lasted six months
She relocated to the USA to be with him eight months after their wedding
The marriage is blessed with a set of twins
Jasmine and Josephine
She said she didn't expect her marriage to be as

blissful as it turned out to be based on how they started
She works with a fashion designing outfit in the US and also has a blooming music ministry
The ways of the Spirit is the way of the believer
We do Him and Him alone
Those who trust in him can never be put to shame

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