Thread by @GbengaWemimo

A wife cheated in a marriage and it was found out. The husband felt used and abused. After a long time of reflection, he decided to revenge
To repay cheating for cheating! He got online and started following hookups and chat rooms with sexual offerings
After sometime he got what

he wanted, a sexual engagement with a lady online
They met at the hotel & he slept with the lady
In his mind, he had evened the score
Days after the deed, things started falling out of place for him
His conscience became heavy, he couldn't concentrate at work and he felt no peace

He experienced all the emotions that cheats and unfaithful people experience all the time that robs them of self-respect and human dignity
He had mortgaged his worth like Esau mortgaged his birthright
He couldn't confess the deed to his wife because he was certain it would make

him look small and perhaps prompt her to cheat again
While wallowing in his guilt, the lady he cheated with chatted him up
It felt like a sign to him
A sign to see her again and connect with her and unburden
He met with her again and she became his escape from reality
She helped

him to put things in the wrong perspective
"Everybody cheats...
"You're wise to get yours...
"Live your life to please yourself...
"You never can tell what your partner is up to...
It was what he wanted to hear
Before he knew it, he spent less and less time at home with his wife

because her sight made him feel guilty and to see himself for what he
hed become
The wife suspected what was going on and would cry herself to sleep every night telling herself she caused it and it served her right
She cheated and had been told she was forgiven but the backlash

was hard and hurtful.
She could decide to cheat again and claim her husband was cheating too but she didn't like how the first cheating experience made her feel
Being unfaithful changes you
Makes you feel hollow and empty and sad
Being cheated upon makes you feel rejected,

unvalued and unloved
Neither of the two feelings were healthy
She fell into depression
Her husband didnt even notice or paid her any attention as she struggled to live
Eventually, her husband discovered that the lady he was cheating with was also cheating on him
He had come to

expect faithfulness from her because it is innate to expect faithfulness from the one to whom you are committed
he went to check her in the apartment he rented for her on a sunday morning and he found her having sex with another person
It broke him
The sinking feeling he had been

dodging came back
He could run from it by cheating with another person and becoming a rabid dog or sit himself down and tell himself that path only leads deeper into the darkness
When Jesus told us not to repay evil with evil, He said so in our best interest
The man eventually

returned home to God and confessed his misdeed
He asked for forgiveness and cried for restoration
The Holy Spirit heard him
The Holy Spirit said "I am a forgiving and healing spirit, you abandoned me when you pursued the course of the flesh in the name of getting even.
You lost

pace with me and lost ground in your walk with me"
When he got home, he confessed his sins to his wife and, apologized but it was almost too late
His wife had developed heart palpitation and high blood pressure
Emotional trauma had taken its hold on her body
The Holy Spirit

stepped in and healed this family but the experience left
an indelible mark
The flesh might ask for a pound of flesh, when you yield to that demand you lose a part of yourself.

Often times you find people who allow their good character to be corrupted or negatively influenced by

the bad behaviour or ill-treatment they receive from others. For instance, someone could decide to stop greeting a neighbour or a colleague, because each time he greets that neighbour or colleague, he or she doesn’t answer. To make such a decision would mean that you’re allowing

someone’s bad behaviour change your good character. Never allow that to happen to you.
That a friend or an acquaintance took undue advantage of your good behaviour is no justification for you to change for the worse. Maintain your good character. Keep on being the nice, loving

and caring one; it will pay off. The question to ask before making a decision to change your good behaviour should be: “Was it right for me to do what I did?” If it was right, then you shouldn’t change it because someone else doesn’t like it
Don’t be moved by the negative actions

, comments or ill-treatments from others. Rather, respond in love to those who hurt or despitefully use you. If you act this way, you’ll be protecting your own spirit and at the same time promoting love, harmony and unity. Make the quality choice not to allow someone’s bad

behaviour change your good character.

PS: This material (drawn of a true-life story) was prepared by -GSW- for the GSWMI Relationship and Marriage Ministries
Classes will commence on February 1, 2021

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