We've talked about sleep troubles, naps, and other topics here, so today we're covering sleep hygiene.
How many of us take an internet device like a phone or tablet to bed? You don't have to admit it, but stats show many people sleep with a device next to the bed.
Making sure we get some movement and fresh air, though not close to bedtime when we need our heart rate to be slowing, is a super way to prepare for sleep.
You may find soothing music can help, however, even that can stimulate brain activity and may disturb your partner in bed. Maybe, Instead, try some "white noise." Eventually, it will be good to sleep with no noise at all; this can be a long term goal! 🙂
Natural sunlight or bright light during the day helps keep your circadian rhythm healthy. This improves daytime energy, as well as nighttime sleep quality and duration.
In people with insomnia, daytime bright light exposure improved sleep quality and duration. #SexAbuseChat
It also reduced the time it took to fall asleep by 83%!
A similar study in older adults found that 2 hours of bright light exposure during the day increased the amount of sleep by 2 hours and sleep efficiency by 80%.
- Wear glasses that block blue light (24Trusted Source, 25Trusted Source).
- Download an app such as f.lux to block blue light on your laptop or computer.
- Install an app that blocks blue light on your smartphone.
Caffeine can stay in your blood for 6–8 hours. Therefore, drinking large amounts of coffee after 3–4 pm is not recommended, especially if you’re sensitive to caffeine or have trouble sleeping.
If you do crave coffee in the late afternoon/evening, stick with decaf #SexAbuseChat
4. Reduce irregular or long daytime naps
While short power naps are beneficial, long or irregular napping during the day can negatively affect your sleep.
Sleeping in the daytime can confuse your internal clock.
I never used to be a napper. Then I had kids! Also, migraines. Naps are a good respite from pain. Not super long ones. No more than an hour. Quick break, then back to work.
If you struggle with sleep, try to get in the habit of waking up and going to bed at similar times. After several weeks, you may not even need an alarm.
- If you live alone and deal with lots of traffic, try white noise or calming music.
- Do you have pets? Do you allow them to sleep with you? If they don't bother you, that can be HEALING. If they nip, bark, or yap, maybe give them their own sleeping space
- I have to usher my beloved Squeakers and Pip kitties out of our room at night. One loves to chew my hair (which is so weird) and the other can't make it the whole night without using the litterbox, so out they go. I miss them, but I miss sleep more.
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TRIGGER WARNING: Tonight's chat discusses child abuse. While participating please practice excellent self-care.
So we find ourselves in the midst of a global pandemic. Those who never had anxiety have increasing levels of it... For those of us w/ trauma, PTSD, anxiety and/or depression linked to sexual abuse, this situation has possibly had an effect on our symptoms.
Those who are at home most of the time may not be affected so much by the 'lockdown' procedures sweeping the globe, however venturing out for food or meds is now a very different experience, and likely an increasingly nerve-shredding one.
Venturing out for any reason, in many places is now partly controlled by government restrictions. The fear of making a mistake and being publicly reprimanded by an authority figure can be particularly daunting.
A woman does not need to fight back or resist in order to prove that she did not consent to unwanted sex. (Canadian sexual assault law does not require proof of resistance to demonstrate a lack of consent.) Nevertheless, in popular imagination
women are often expected to resist in order to prove that they really were “real” victims of sexual assault. This is one of the enduring #RapeMyths, that a “true” victim of sexual assault will fight back or scream and yell, and if she didn’t she must have consented to sex.
This mistaken idea simply fails to understand typical responses to sexual threat, coercion, intrusion and/or fear. Too often, sexual assault victims are asked, “Why didn’t you just fight back, or scream, or struggle, or run away?”
Tonight we're discussing disclosure - it's different for every survivor. When to disclose, if we disclose, how to disclose...we'll discuss ways and when and how tonight and all that entails (in the time available).
When people hear the word "disclosure", especially in relation to sexual abuse, their minds probably go toward reporting to the authorities. While this is an option, of course, disclosure does not have to mean going this route.
The definition says "the action of making new or secret information known," it doesn't say known to the entire world, or to the police or to your family. It doesn't actually stipulate.
Many times, especially as childhood survivors of sexual abuse, therapy wasn't an option for many of us for various reasons. For me, it was the mid-70s and therapy was frowned upon. As I write in my books, only people like my 'crazy Aunt Barbara' went to therapy #SexAbuseChat
because she'd tried to end her life several times. Or it was what 'hippies' did - going to transcendental meditation or EST. Therapy wasn't for abused kids - besides, 'she's FINE' my mom told everyone. It was swept under the rug.
It wasn't until I gave birth to my first child and experienced PPD (postpartum depression) that I sought therapy, and my shrink (wonderful guy) diagnosed me with anxiety, depression, and PTSD - living w/ all that for over 25 years! Imagine that.