When I found out that @Women_Canada scrubbed the word "masculinity" from the new CAF directive on addressing sexual violence in the military, I flipped my wig.
I was told by both Canadian Armed Forces & Status of Women Canada to relax.
This has consistently been my experience working with the CAF : Either outright hostility or absolute ignorance with an almost "Oh, golly gee. Sorry there, little lady. We done goofed."
And to find out that Status of Women is enabling this nonsense is infuriating.
And if you don't believe me, I have a "justification" in writing from the Canadian Armed Forces. I also spent weeks asking to meet with someone from @Women_Canada and all my requests were ignored.
The word "masculinity" did appear in the initial document. I praised the CAF. That praise was published in the media.
Then I found out @Women_Canada instructed CAF to remove "masculinity" and replace it with "Gender stereotypes".
The weakest of sauces, friends. WEAKEST.
I take no pleasure in dragging Status of Women Canada. To be honest, I have more than one person in my DMs right now telling me to be careful because I might lose the ability to ever get my work funded again.
But I gave them MONTHS to answer me & this photo put me over the edge.
And let me state this unequivocally :
The inclusion of the word MASCULINITY was groundbreaking. Replacing that with "Gender stereotypes" is offensive. These are not interchangeable words.
CAF has the lowest female representation of any occupation in Canada. NAME THE PROBLEM.
It still blows my mind that the CAF was willing to name "masculinity" as the root of the problem re: sexual violence and STATUS OF WOMEN CANADA said "No. Replace it with gender stereotypes."
I was grumpy when Status of Women changed their name to WAGE and I'm sad I was right.
All of which to say, we cannot be surprised that the Canadian Armed Forces posted a photo of a bunch of white men at a conference table as a means of talking inclusion when the Feminists in Government™️ don't even get it.
Lastly : Remember when I shared my experience with RMC and everyone called me a liar? So I wrote an award winning book and included letters proving I was harassed and put that chatter to rest?
I have receipts, people. I always do.
PS The most offensive part for me personally was after I was consulted, I praised the inclusion of masculinity. When it was removed, I got someone on the horn at CAF who had the nerve to tell me "We removed it after talking to experts."
I'M AN EXPERT. IT'S WHY YOU CONSULTED ME
I was briefed on October 27. The embargoed document I had named "Masculinity".
*Stares in 2015 me who was averaging about a hundred threats a day and who couldn't speak in public without a police escort because I had spoken about sexual harassment at the Royal Military College*
As an educator who works with young women AND as someone who was 5'10 in the 8th grade: I cannot implore you enough to talk to the young women in your life about the ways older men will hit on them & make them feel like it's a sign of their maturity.
Regardless of YOUR gender, if you know any 11-12 year old girls, please debunk all the pop culture nonsense about muses, groupies.
Our culture is saturated with examples of older men using young women's minds and bodies as inspiration.
It needs to stop.
Young women deserve to know the truth about how proximity to power is a trap.
Please speak frankly with them about how it *does* feel good to get attention, especially from people who have power. Validate their feelings. Then debunk the whole thing.
If you break up with your partner, reject a guy on Tinder or ignore a man catcalling you, and he then goes on a rampage, harming others - It is not your fault.
If you survive abuse and do not report that abuse, and he goes on to hurt others - It is not your fault.
If you survive abuse and report that abuse and the system does not believe you, so he does it again to someone else - It is not your fault.
If you reject a man and that man then harms himself - It is not your fault.