Share this page!

Julie S. Lalonde Profile picture
Twitter logo
24 Feb, 4 tweets, 1 min read
I'm working on a piece about incest as the last big taboo of the #MeToo era.

Looking to speak with a few victims/survivors for the piece.
Preferably Canadian/living in Canada. Any gender or age.

Please reply or contact me through my site if you feel safe. 💛
My DMs are closed for my own safety reasons. Apologies I have to make you go through my site, but yeah. The world sucks sometimes.

Yellowmanteau.com
Addendum : I am shook by how many people I've heard from in the last hour. I am humbled by how many people trusted me to reach out.
I'm no longer looking for sources but I'm keeping the tweet up in case anyone sees this and is really keen to share their insights.

• • •

Missing some Tweet in this thread? You can try to force a refresh
　

Keep Current with Julie S. Lalonde

Julie S. Lalonde Profile picture

Stay in touch and get notified when new unrolls are available from this author!

Read all threads

This Thread may be Removed Anytime!

PDF

Twitter may remove this content at anytime! Save it as PDF for later use!

Try unrolling a thread yourself!

how to unroll video
  1. Follow @ThreadReaderApp to mention us!

  2. From a Twitter thread mention us with a keyword "unroll"
@threadreaderapp unroll

Practice here first or read more on our help page!

More from @JulieSLalonde

Julie S. Lalonde Profile picture
25 Feb
*Stares in 2015 me who was averaging about a hundred threats a day and who couldn't speak in public without a police escort because I had spoken about sexual harassment at the Royal Military College*
Two. Chiefs. Of. The. Defense. Staff. In. A. Row.
Perhaps this news will help you understand why I'm so furious with @Women_Canada

Read 4 tweets
Julie S. Lalonde Profile picture
11 Feb
When I found out that @Women_Canada scrubbed the word "masculinity" from the new CAF directive on addressing sexual violence in the military, I flipped my wig.

I was told by both Canadian Armed Forces & Status of Women Canada to relax.

But this photo says it all, doesn't it?
This has consistently been my experience working with the CAF : Either outright hostility or absolute ignorance with an almost "Oh, golly gee. Sorry there, little lady. We done goofed."

And to find out that Status of Women is enabling this nonsense is infuriating.
And if you don't believe me, I have a "justification" in writing from the Canadian Armed Forces. I also spent weeks asking to meet with someone from @Women_Canada and all my requests were ignored.
Read 11 tweets
Julie S. Lalonde Profile picture
18 Jun 20
As an educator who works with young women AND as someone who was 5'10 in the 8th grade: I cannot implore you enough to talk to the young women in your life about the ways older men will hit on them & make them feel like it's a sign of their maturity.
Regardless of YOUR gender, if you know any 11-12 year old girls, please debunk all the pop culture nonsense about muses, groupies.

Our culture is saturated with examples of older men using young women's minds and bodies as inspiration.

It needs to stop.
Young women deserve to know the truth about how proximity to power is a trap.

Please speak frankly with them about how it *does* feel good to get attention, especially from people who have power. Validate their feelings. Then debunk the whole thing.
Read 12 tweets
Julie S. Lalonde Profile picture
4 Jun 20
I am drowning in "BUT IF WE DEFUND COPS, WHO WILL PUNISH RAPISTS?!" messages.

*Deep breath*
I've been working with sexual assault survivors since 2003.

I have, without exaggeration, supported literal thousands of women and girls in my lifetime.

I can count on ONE hand the amount of women who got a conviction. I don't know a single one whose rapist went to prison.
But I do know two hands full of women who were killed by men they had formally reported.

I also know two hands full of women who took their own lives because they were so badly traumatized by the legal system.
Read 8 tweets
Julie S. Lalonde Profile picture
12 May 20
I was born & raised in rural/Northern Ontario.
I've done work to end violence against women for 17 yrs.

Some quick facts you should know about violence against women in a rural Canadian context:
1- Guns. Guns. Guns.

I grew up in a house of guns and I literally did not know a single person growing up who did not have guns in their house.

Domestic violence gets cranked up to 11 when you know the man has access to a firearm.
2- Confidentiality is largely a joke.

Everyone knows everyone. Everyone knows you. Everyone knows your abuser.

The officer assigned to your case might be the same guy who busted you for underage drinking when you were 15.
Read 9 tweets
Julie S. Lalonde Profile picture
24 Apr 20
If you break up with your partner, reject a guy on Tinder or ignore a man catcalling you, and he then goes on a rampage, harming others - It is not your fault.
If you survive abuse and do not report that abuse, and he goes on to hurt others - It is not your fault.

If you survive abuse and report that abuse and the system does not believe you, so he does it again to someone else - It is not your fault.
If you reject a man and that man then harms himself - It is not your fault.
Read 4 tweets

Did Thread Reader help you today?

Support us! We are indie developers!

This site is made by just two indie developers on a laptop doing marketing, support and development! Read more about the story.

Become a Premium Member ($3/month or $30/year) and get exclusive features!

Become Premium

Too expensive? Make a small donation by buying us coffee ($5) or help with server cost ($10)

Donate via Paypal Become our Patreon

Thank you for your support!

Follow Us on Twitter!

Like this author's thread?

Get emails when @JulieSLalonde has new unrolls!

Check out other threads from @JulieSLalonde!

Read all threads by @JulieSLalonde