Good guys and bad guys. We have to let go of a comforting illusion that there is some bright line between men who rape and men who don’t rape, between the bad guys and the good guys. Many men don’t rape, but do contribute to the problem. feministcurrent.com/2017/11/06/goo… 1/4
We should not let the worst and most egregious cases of men’s violence against women derail the analysis of how a wide range of men’s intrusive and abusive sexual behaviours against women and girls are woven into the fabric of patriarchal society. 2/4
Most men do not rape. But consider these other categories. Men who do not rape but… Would be willing to rape if they were sure they won’t be punished. Will not intervene when another man rapes. Whose sexual arousal depends on feeling dominant and having power over a woman. 3/4
So it’s not enough for men to avoid the acts legally defined as rape. Instead, men must challenge the wide range of intrusive and abusive sexual behaviours, examine our own complicity in these, and strive for consent and gender justice. feministcurrent.com/2017/11/06/goo… 4/4
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The extent of sexual violence against women in Australia. 1 in 5 women (18% or 1.7 million) has experienced sexual violence (the occurrence, attempt or threat of sexual assault) since the age of 15. In the last year, 148,100 women over the age of 15 were victims of sexual assault
When asked about their most recent incident of sexual assault, just under 9 out of ten women (87% or 553,700) reported they were sexually assaulted by a man they know. For these women, the most common known perpetrator was a former partner (26% or 163,100).
One in two women (53% or 5 million) has experienced sexual harassment (experienced or has been subjected to one or more selected behaviours which they found improper or unwanted, which made them feel uncomfortable, and/or were offensive due to their sexual nature).
Sexual violence: It is comforting, but wrong, to think that only a tiny proportion of men ever commit sexual violence. Studies among men on US campuses find that anywhere from e.g. 1.6% in the last year to 25% by the end of 4th year in college have perpetrated sexual violence 1/4
International studies, similarly, find that significant proportions of men, from 2%, to 10%, to 51%, have ever used sexual violence against a woman. This survey (2011) finds that men’s lifetime reported use of SV was around 9% in most countries. icrw.org/publications/e… 2/4
So why do some men perpetrate sexual violence against women? Because of gender socialisation and gender inequalities, in particular. Because of sexual entitlement and gender-inequitable social norms. Authoritative review of scholarship on perpetration: xyonline.net/sites/xyonline… 3/4
One key reason many men don’t recognise our roles in preventing and reducing rape is that we fail to realise that most rapes by are men known to the victim, in a familiar location, without serious injury, and that rapes are common. Many men have a mistaken idea of rape. 1/6
Men often imagine some crazed guy, in a park, violently raping a passing woman. Men often don’t think of what’s far more common: A man pressuring his date into sex. A man expecting that his wife will have sex whenever he wants to. A man taking advantage of a drunk woman. Etc. 2/6
Men, and to a lesser extent women, often believe, mistakenly, that most rapes are by strangers, in a public place, & involving severe physical force, contribute to the neglect of the reality of sexual violence and to victim-blaming. Report, p. 54: ncas.anrows.org.au/wp-content/upl… 3/6
Sexism in the Academy: An excellent, detailed account of how male dominance in the academy and scholarship is sustained (2019). nplusonemag.com/issue-34/essay… via @nplusonemag 1/15
Women now comprise a bit over half of undergrad students but the proportions decline at every stage of the academic hierarchy “While there were significant gains during much of the 20th century, feminist progress in the academy has slowed and may have already come to a halt” 2/15
Academic ranks are still male-dominated. Banal sexist practices, not ugly misogyny, explain most of the problem. “This durable, unjust structure largely depends on the attitudes and practices of three social groups: male scholars, male students, and male romantic partners.” 3/15
Men Have No Friends and Women Bear the Burden. The idea that feelings are a "female thing" has left a generation of straight men stranded on emotionally-stunted island, unable to forge intimate relationships with other men. Women pay the price. harpersbazaar.com/culture/featur…
The key takeaways from this piece: 1/3: 1) Men are socialised to avoid emotional expression. 2) Men thus tend to have weaker, less intimate friendships than women. 3) As a result, heterosexual men often try to get all their emotional needs met by their female intimate partners.
2/3 4) This is bad for men. Limits their sources of support, makes them more vulnerable e.g. if separation. 5) And it’s bad for women: is a burden, have to do all the emotional labour.
Men, gender, and privilege 1/6: Privilege is “systematically conferred advantages individuals enjoy by virtue of their membership in dominant groups”. Male privilege is the flipside of female disadvantage. xyonline.net/content/undoin…
Men, gender, and privilege 2/6: Privilege often is invisible to those who receive it. So while some men acknowledge that women are disadvantaged, they are less willing to recognise that they are correspondingly privileged. xyonline.net/content/undoin…
Men, gender, and privilege 3/6: Privilege is normalised. Privileged lives become the dominant norm. The dominant group’s characteristics become the basis for measuring success. Men are seen as “normal”, the norm is unmarked, and men are seen as representative of all humanity