Thread by @earthworkrr

Of Kingdom and Sweet Words

Sometime back when I just got married, a young man brought a young lady to visit with the intent to introduce her as his Beloved.

I was so happy for him and I told him that much.

Then I teased the young lady and asked her how he “toasted” her.

“Sir, don’t mind him o. He just came and told me God said and left me and I also left him waiting because though I heard from God, I felt it was appropriate he wooed me as well.

It was when he saw I wasn’t showing any sign he ask what was wrong that I explained to him”.

He got the message and did justice to the process.

Brothers, don’t just stop at “God said...” and then go cold. You make it look like it’s take it or leave it.

You don’t “choke” God said to a daughter of Zion. For God to bring you her way, He expects more from you.

Ensure you play your part. Get to know more by going out on dates as this would allow you see more of her.

Write to her, send songs to her and leave a memory in her heart.

When I was toasting my wife, wo, she hear am o! I had a Nokia phone that had a scheduler for SMS.

Once it was 6:00AM, SMS was automatically sent and then a call would follow 15 minutes after for us to pray.

I discovered my wife’s love language - madame loves gifts and assistance in chores around the house.

She was in Kaduna and I was in Lagos, unemployed.

With the little I made, I bought gifts (earrings, bracelets, shoes, perfume oils) in preparation for my visits.

I always loved the glow of her honey colored eyes when she smiles seeing the gifts.

I wrote poems and love letters o 😎😎😎.

She sef know say “Man is Good”.

We had a word from God before we got married and even when we had nasty fights in the earlier stages, we had God’s word to fall back to.

Divorce has never and will never be an option.

We didn’t marry with the hidden intent to divorce at the hint of trouble.

I remember when I was sitting at a friends place and I asked the Holy Spirit for a line for her and it came:

“Chaviva, you just crossed my heart, spent a heart beat but left a memory”.

Omoeaux! It was a banger.

The Holy Spirit has taught me a lot about marriage.

However, He started in the relationship I had with my wife.

Brothers, do better. You’re not a Spartan from Agunlejika but a child of the Most High whose very creation is poetry in motion.

Do the work and keep doing it because it would require more from you to keep the fire.

Sisters, don’t forget to reciprocate the gestures. Learn to give and appreciate.

Find his love language and appreciate it. It’s not everyday “You don’t care about me again”.

Shebi you learnt something?

Then I pray for you - may you find joy and happiness in that man/woman.

May God’s love keep what you’re building and sustain it after it has been built.

May your children see the standard of God’s ideal for marriage in you and run with that vision.

As a man finds a wife, finds a good thing, he will surely obtain God’s Favour.

Amen.
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