Thread by @subomiplumptre

Upbringing is important and greatly influences how individuals manage relationships. 🧵

So when people check out the families of those they intend to marry or do business with, I understand. Ideology, lifestyle and values can be shaped by background and family (or the lack thereof).

The thing about learning about a person's family or upbringing is, it helps breed understanding. It should never be done in judgment. We all have our baggage. So, no one is superior.

If you discover that the other party came from concerning circumstances, here's what is important.

Find out if he/she has enough self-awareness to recognize their harmful family practices or background. If they understand that it was not enough to leave those things behind; they still need to process their lingering effects.

Is the person even aware of how much those things are still impacting their relationships? Do they admit and confront it? Are they on an active path to healing backed by deliberate action? If the answer to any of these questions is no, run.

#Family #Background #Relationships