This is my pool. Someone had the "smart" idea to make the shallow end 5' 5". For comparison, I'm 5' 10". So, after two steps, my head goes under water. The pool is obviously not for children. 🧵
The problem with the depth is that until recently, I was terrified of water. And with this pool, I can't get tired halfway and stand up. I must make it to either end or side to reach safety.
I learnt to swim to survive. I love traveling and for island destinations, I needed to know my way around water. I swam to enhance my travel experience and to not die on vacation. This year, I finally chose to face my trepidation around water.
It turned out I simply needed more practice and skill. I hired a coach and since I learn by process, having him explain the physics behind techniques was helpful. I also dislike learning under pressure. I want to take my time. So I booked more than the typical amount of lessons.
The experience taught me about Imposter Syndrome. Sometimes, the reason you're secretly not confident about what you know, is because you barely know what you know.
You need more skills and you need to practice until the role fits you like a second skin. Even if you are woken up in the middle of the night, you can perform.
Find your self-confidence through expertise and practice. Stop performing under pressure. Avoid giving yourself unrealistic goals. You are not in a competition. Breathe, learn, practice. That's what you need.
Yesterday, I contemplated life. I thought about how we make plans and wait for the stars to align before finally living. I thought about how we rarely enjoy the fruits of our labour because we learnt to manage while coming up. 🧵
Moving from a scarcity to a prosperity mindset is difficult. It's why we keep reserving things for visitors and keep waiting for vacations before resting. It's why we accept less than ideal love and learn to compromise the sacred.
So, yesterday I decided to do something about the restlessness in my spirit. Something symbolic.
Behaviours change and one habit replaces another. 🧵
I never used to like hot food. Especially when hungry. It was scalding and required patience to wait for the food to cool down first before taking a bite. But that soon changed.
When I had a 9 to 5, I would take a packed lunch from home. The office staff would then microwave and plate it at lunchtime. They had a predilection for very hot food and so my meal would arrive with steam spewing from it. After a while, I stopped complaining and got used to it.
THE TEN STRUGGLES OF THE RICH | If you are a High Networth Individual living in Nigeria, then this post is for you. 🧵
I have noticed ten main causes of unhappiness among the rich in this part of the world. Particularly those who earned their status legitimately through hard work.
1. You will often have money and not find what to buy. This is a real struggle if you have taste. You will discover that the most basic standards of quality, thinking and service are absent here. Where present, they are rare and often hoarded by closed networks.
It's one thing to not evolve. We all struggle with evolution, reinvention and growth. But it's quite another thing to not even be aware that the world has left you behind. That's the real sorrow. 🧵
Oftentimes, you fail to notice because of rigidity, pride and an insistence on doing things as you've always done them.
But how you will know something is wrong is that those methods fail to produce previous results. People stop coming to you for the things they once used to.
In 2021, your village pipu will stop chasing you. You will escape the cycle of self-sabotage. You will leave your lifelong trauma behind.
You will overcome your pride and admit you need therapy and counsel. You will stop being cheap and acknowledge the value of professional help. You will finally see mental health for what it is - health.
If you have money, you should book a session with @EmotionsDoctor. Specifically ask for her Soul Stripping Spa. It will reset your life and I dare say, your destiny.