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Lolo Cynthia

8 Mar, 7 tweets, 2 min read

I went to a pub close to home today to unwind and learn about my new environment in Senegal.

I climbed to the roof top with my 2nd class of red wine and sat on a table with a young man.

He wasn't overly dressed.. I could tell he was a local who wasn't well to do..

He was slightly tattered but honestly I love conversations and he looked like a simple guy.

We talked .. He didn't speak much English so it was half half conversation

Before an hour 2 male friends of his joined the table..One from Guinea and the other from Senegal..

I could tell this was the routine- A bottle or 2 of beer before they ended the day.

I gisted with them and lauged...
I was about to leave so i I paid for my drink and told them it was a pleasure.

But before I stood up, he whispered in my ear 'How much..I want to take u home'

I was shocked but laughed it off..
I'm not a sex worker I told him.. I just came to have a drink.. He apologised but followed me downstairs..maybe to him this was part of the game and I needed to to be cajoled...

I saw his shock and disappointment as I left the bar

As I left i wondered what could have made that impression.. I wore a maxi dress, cardigan and flip flop.. I certainly didn't look like i was hustling.

But it dawned on me that the mere act of going to a bar on my own and chatting with men branded me a prostitute.

Its ironic that this happens on #InternationalWomensDay

It was a reminder on how much we need to get done.

I'm not upset but motivated to change the the status quo of women in the society.

Its truly in these simple encounters that we realize how much we need to do.

So I'm going to keep going to that bar and refusing all the men till they realize not all women in bars are sex workers.

To make sure that before they approach they any woman in a bar as a sex worker, they ask themselves for a second - Is she? Maye she isn't?

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