Some Thoughts From Being in
Process of Raising Two Girls with @lovefitmama
(and everything applies to coaching).
#InternationalWomensDay #iwd2021 #girldad
1. Remove "Be Careful" from our Vocabulary
Give them confidence to explore freely and to challenge their limits.
Process of Raising Two Girls with @lovefitmama
(and everything applies to coaching).
#InternationalWomensDay #iwd2021 #girldad
1. Remove "Be Careful" from our Vocabulary
Give them confidence to explore freely and to challenge their limits.
2. And I Am Smart Too
Anytime someone tells them they are cute, welcome the compliment but also add to the conversation "and I am smart too." We want them to feel and know their value beyond superficial things...substance that has been developed through effort.
Anytime someone tells them they are cute, welcome the compliment but also add to the conversation "and I am smart too." We want them to feel and know their value beyond superficial things...substance that has been developed through effort.
3. Honor Them
Hold space. Honor what they want to do, to try, to experience. Create an environment where they can experience things rather than simply being told things. Honor their creativity and learning, rather than dictate what I think and want for them.
Hold space. Honor what they want to do, to try, to experience. Create an environment where they can experience things rather than simply being told things. Honor their creativity and learning, rather than dictate what I think and want for them.
4. Free Range
Foster independent thinking and action by creating psychological safety so that they can freely learn about themselves and the world...Ideally by substituting compliance with curiosity.
Foster independent thinking and action by creating psychological safety so that they can freely learn about themselves and the world...Ideally by substituting compliance with curiosity.
5. Get Up Before It Hurts
We all fail. We all fall down. Respond with determination and perseverance. This is aided by helping them understand and normalize pain, sadness, anger, frustration, etc. as normal human emotions that we can manage.
We all fail. We all fall down. Respond with determination and perseverance. This is aided by helping them understand and normalize pain, sadness, anger, frustration, etc. as normal human emotions that we can manage.
6. Be Grateful
Getting to a mindset of gratitude helps them overcome negative emotions & challenges. Feeling frustrated? "I'm grateful for you. What are you grateful for?" It helps take them out of, & gives them power over those negative emotions and challenges.
Getting to a mindset of gratitude helps them overcome negative emotions & challenges. Feeling frustrated? "I'm grateful for you. What are you grateful for?" It helps take them out of, & gives them power over those negative emotions and challenges.
7. Praise Effort
We avoid saying, "You are amazing at math." and instead focus on "What amazing effort learning your math or you couldn't do that last week and now because of your effort you can."
Shout out to all the #growthmindset teachers I have had!
We avoid saying, "You are amazing at math." and instead focus on "What amazing effort learning your math or you couldn't do that last week and now because of your effort you can."
Shout out to all the #growthmindset teachers I have had!
8. Make Sure Behavior is Consistent with Choice
It's OK to not do something or to not want to do something, but if you choose to do something, then do it to the best of your abilities. If you say you are going to do something than honor those words by putting actions behind them
It's OK to not do something or to not want to do something, but if you choose to do something, then do it to the best of your abilities. If you say you are going to do something than honor those words by putting actions behind them
9. In the Absence of Effort...
Nothing meaningful or lasting comes without working hard at it. Challenge yourself to do things you cannot do well yet. Challenge yourself to improve on things you cannot do as well yet. Effort and stickwithitness can overcome many things.
Nothing meaningful or lasting comes without working hard at it. Challenge yourself to do things you cannot do well yet. Challenge yourself to improve on things you cannot do as well yet. Effort and stickwithitness can overcome many things.
10. Yet is the Most Powerful Word in Learning
If they say they can't do something, it is always followed by "yet." It's not that they can't do it, it's that they can't do it yet. When your effort follows your passion you can do it.
If they say they can't do something, it is always followed by "yet." It's not that they can't do it, it's that they can't do it yet. When your effort follows your passion you can do it.
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