How to be successful and fulfilled, guaranteed, in 16 actionable steps:
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Fulfillment requires acceptance of the past, excited anticipation of the future, and contentment in the present. If fulfillment is approached in this way, your personal success will be a natural byproduct.
How do we begin this approach? By taking these steps:
How do we begin this approach? By taking these steps:
1. Eliminate regret
We start by facing the past. Regret is a backward-looking emotion that separates you from fulfillment. As long as your regrets have power over you, you are their servant. Write down your regrets. Face them on paper. Read them aloud, then throw them away.
We start by facing the past. Regret is a backward-looking emotion that separates you from fulfillment. As long as your regrets have power over you, you are their servant. Write down your regrets. Face them on paper. Read them aloud, then throw them away.
2. Learn from failures
Write down your most memorable failures. Go as far back as you can remember. For each one, write down (on a separate sheet of paper), a corresponding lesson learned. What did each failure teach you? Burn the failures. Keep the lessons close.
Write down your most memorable failures. Go as far back as you can remember. For each one, write down (on a separate sheet of paper), a corresponding lesson learned. What did each failure teach you? Burn the failures. Keep the lessons close.
3. Honor grief
Loss is unavoidable. Grief manifests because we can no longer hold what we once held dear. Honor the role your losses played in your life by knowing this: if someone truly cares about you, they also want you to be happy. And happiness requires forward movement.
Loss is unavoidable. Grief manifests because we can no longer hold what we once held dear. Honor the role your losses played in your life by knowing this: if someone truly cares about you, they also want you to be happy. And happiness requires forward movement.
4. Ignore embarrassments
Nobody is thinking about you nearly as much as you’re thinking about yourself. Embarrassment is simply self-aggrandized self-consciousness. Restructure your embarrassments. Don't relive them, but ask, “why am I embarrassed, what should I do next time?”
Nobody is thinking about you nearly as much as you’re thinking about yourself. Embarrassment is simply self-aggrandized self-consciousness. Restructure your embarrassments. Don't relive them, but ask, “why am I embarrassed, what should I do next time?”
5. Let go of resentments
Those you resent hold power over you. They live in your consciousness and feed ravenously on your focus. Write down your resentments. Read them aloud. Who has hurt you? Why do you resent them? Do this exercise once. Then burn the paper.
Those you resent hold power over you. They live in your consciousness and feed ravenously on your focus. Write down your resentments. Read them aloud. Who has hurt you? Why do you resent them? Do this exercise once. Then burn the paper.
6. Craft your vision
Now we look to the future. Your vision is WHAT you want to achieve in life. Make it as detailed as possible. Create a high-resolution picture in your mind of its fruition. What does it look like? What does it feel like? Write it down. Read it every morning.
Now we look to the future. Your vision is WHAT you want to achieve in life. Make it as detailed as possible. Create a high-resolution picture in your mind of its fruition. What does it look like? What does it feel like? Write it down. Read it every morning.
7. Define your mission
Your mission is WHY you want to achieve your vision. For a sufficient mission, you must look outside yourself. Who are you helping? Your family? Those less fortunate? People with whom you identify? Write it down. Read it every morning.
Your mission is WHY you want to achieve your vision. For a sufficient mission, you must look outside yourself. Who are you helping? Your family? Those less fortunate? People with whom you identify? Write it down. Read it every morning.
8. Define your values
Your values are HOW you’ll achieve your mission and vision. They are the lens you use to make decisions. Regularly ask, “did I uphold xyz value today? Did I behave as a man who values xyz would behave?” Write them down. Read them every morning.
Your values are HOW you’ll achieve your mission and vision. They are the lens you use to make decisions. Regularly ask, “did I uphold xyz value today? Did I behave as a man who values xyz would behave?” Write them down. Read them every morning.
9. Find a guide
This is easier than it sounds. Your guide can be a mentor, a teacher, or someone you’ve never met. The only requirement is they have achieved what you want to achieve (or similar). Your job is to learn as much as you can about how they did it, and find patterns.
This is easier than it sounds. Your guide can be a mentor, a teacher, or someone you’ve never met. The only requirement is they have achieved what you want to achieve (or similar). Your job is to learn as much as you can about how they did it, and find patterns.
10. Define near-term objectives
These must be binary. You either achieve them or you don’t. And the objectives you select, if they’re achieved, must take you the largest strides possible toward your vision. They are obtainable near-term milestones that ensure your trajectory.
These must be binary. You either achieve them or you don’t. And the objectives you select, if they’re achieved, must take you the largest strides possible toward your vision. They are obtainable near-term milestones that ensure your trajectory.
11. Measure your daily results
What gets measured gets managed. Remember, your objectives are binary. You either achieve them or you don't. Here we are holding ourselves accountable. Is your objective to save an emergency fund? To hit a deadlift PR? Record progress, track daily.
What gets measured gets managed. Remember, your objectives are binary. You either achieve them or you don't. Here we are holding ourselves accountable. Is your objective to save an emergency fund? To hit a deadlift PR? Record progress, track daily.
12. Craft new objectives and results at regular intervals
The cadence doesn't matter. All that matters is you regularly reformulate your objectives as you grow. Each time determine what outcomes will get you the largest stride toward your vision, and how you can measure them.
The cadence doesn't matter. All that matters is you regularly reformulate your objectives as you grow. Each time determine what outcomes will get you the largest stride toward your vision, and how you can measure them.
13. Turn results into habits
Now we address the present. Tracking results must become a habit. In doing so, continuous improvement also becomes a habit. We become what we do day in and day out. Excellence is simply a byproduct of continuous progression in your productive habits.
Now we address the present. Tracking results must become a habit. In doing so, continuous improvement also becomes a habit. We become what we do day in and day out. Excellence is simply a byproduct of continuous progression in your productive habits.
14. Destroy distractions
Distraction results from a failure to prioritize. If we are prioritized appropriately, and we are measuring our progress daily, distractions become more noticeable. You can’t destroy what you can’t see. To eliminate them, illuminate them.
Distraction results from a failure to prioritize. If we are prioritized appropriately, and we are measuring our progress daily, distractions become more noticeable. You can’t destroy what you can’t see. To eliminate them, illuminate them.
15. Maximize energy
Nothing is achievable without energy. You can have the highest IQ ever measured. But if you can’t get out of bed, your aptitude will never meaningfully manifest. The first step to maximizing energy is through appropriate diet, sleep, and exercise.
Nothing is achievable without energy. You can have the highest IQ ever measured. But if you can’t get out of bed, your aptitude will never meaningfully manifest. The first step to maximizing energy is through appropriate diet, sleep, and exercise.
16. Practice gratitude
Gratitude is an action. You can only hold one thought at a time. By thinking about what you’re grateful for, you're literally depriving negative thoughts of oxygen. Practice gratitude in thought, word, and deed. Do it consciously. Do it every single day.
Gratitude is an action. You can only hold one thought at a time. By thinking about what you’re grateful for, you're literally depriving negative thoughts of oxygen. Practice gratitude in thought, word, and deed. Do it consciously. Do it every single day.
These steps form the framework for a fulfilled life because by following them you are necessarily living for a purpose.
And provided your vision is possible, and you have the objective baseline aptitude for reaching it, (and barring unforeseen health issues) success will follow.
And provided your vision is possible, and you have the objective baseline aptitude for reaching it, (and barring unforeseen health issues) success will follow.
What success looks like may well surprise you. And its definition will change as you grow. But what is certain is that fulfillment comes from living for a purpose.
And purpose is too important to approach unintentionally. These steps define, guide, and prioritize your purpose.
And purpose is too important to approach unintentionally. These steps define, guide, and prioritize your purpose.
The purpose of Save Your Sons is to build stronger families.
Our mission is to build a world in which every man has the tools he needs to be a strong father.
Our vision is a life of prosperity and happiness for generations of families, all across the globe.
Our mission is to build a world in which every man has the tools he needs to be a strong father.
Our vision is a life of prosperity and happiness for generations of families, all across the globe.
If you have a similar vision for your family, but you don't know where to start, add your email to our list at saveyoursons.com
There you'll join people just like you who are taking these steps, living their purposes, and securing their futures.
Thank you for reading
There you'll join people just like you who are taking these steps, living their purposes, and securing their futures.
Thank you for reading
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