Thread by @diaryofa9jagirl

Here’s why Don Jazzy could announce his newly acquired home -arms spread right in front of the house to indicate enlargement and space- without backlash but a woman who does the same would be dragged for bragging and probably sleeping around to be able to afford such.

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I remember when I was younger, many of our aunts and mothers’ friends bought houses secretly and left the house to their children or sold the property(ies) to take care of their children when necessary.

The boys knew it, the girls knew it, we all accepted this as normal.

Why did our aunts and mothers see the need to buy these properties albeit secretly? The basic human need for independence,to be your own person, to have something that you can record as yours and yours alone.

Many boys and girls grew up seeing this and interpreted it this way:

“Our mothers were humble enough to hide their achievements from their husbands and society, why not the 21st-century woman?”

So these same boys and girls come on social media and hand over a map to you that doesn’t include your COMPLETE path.

On this path is marriage, chastity, humility, hard work, children.

This way, the society will rejoice with you when you have kids and show them off. They’ll heartily congratulate you when you get married and spam the gram with photos.

On the other hand,

come out as a married woman claiming to own your OWN home, it shows you’ve disrespected your husband and have become a braggart.

Owning your own home and showing it off with joy isn’t on the path set out for you, there’s a way our mothers did it, you have to stick to the manual!

I write this for you to have a deeper understanding of the anger and bile thrown at women for showing off accomplishments.

I write this for you who have done well for yourself but would rather jump Uber than buy a car just so you won’t threaten the man.

This is for you, who have saved up and worked hard to buy your dream home and all you want to do is show it to the world in happiness and joy but you can’t do that because you’re walking on the path set by culture and maintained by the society.

One time on Twitter, a young lady posted how happy she was because after denying herself of many things, she was finally able to become a home owner. She went ahead and did a video showing her utter joy.

I can’t forget a particular comment (from a female) that jumped at me:

“There are more important things going on in the world right now, showing off your home isn’t one of them, come back next time.”

I gasped!

This empowering and inspiring moment is not IMPORTANT?

So now you can see that everyone else wants you to walk a path that does not include your fullness.

It’s time to create a new positive habit of owning your life and everything you’ve achieved. It’s time to drop the habit of teaching yourself to be smaller than you are.

Dear woman,

Be in your power, exercise it fully as a human, hold the remote control of your life in your hands, never, ever, hand it over to ANYONE.

YOUR LIFE IS YOURS.