Ways you can identify a 'usual suspect' critic vs a 'garden variety critic' or a 'helpful critic.'
1. No matter what you say, how often you meet, etc, they never come around. They don't want resolution.
2. They weaponize your insight against you.
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1. No matter what you say, how often you meet, etc, they never come around. They don't want resolution.
2. They weaponize your insight against you.
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3. As much as you try to resolve, they never land, they just keep shifting the target.
4. They continue to embrace their own POV over the objective facts of the situation.
5. You give them too much real estate in your brain.
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4. They continue to embrace their own POV over the objective facts of the situation.
5. You give them too much real estate in your brain.
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Once you identify a usual suspect over other types....
1. Move them out of the corner office of your brain. They are usually tiny fraction of % of all your people, but you give them a large % of your mental energy and time.
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1. Move them out of the corner office of your brain. They are usually tiny fraction of % of all your people, but you give them a large % of your mental energy and time.
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2. Never meet alone. Bullies behave better when there are witnesses. Also, usual suspect critics twist your words and meaning, so having someone witness what you say can protect you.
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3. Pray for them. Praying has helped me keep from self righteousness, anger fantasies.
You can stay connected to your usual suspect critics, but protect your heart, time and integrity.
More on this week's MLA podcast episode for those wanting to dive deeper.
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You can stay connected to your usual suspect critics, but protect your heart, time and integrity.
More on this week's MLA podcast episode for those wanting to dive deeper.
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