Thread by @ClaraJeffery

I think that there's a certain percentage of men will do this, and abuse women, sexually and otherwise, no matter their age.

How big a percentage is a question I wish sociologists and psychologists would ascertain so that we could better risk assess.

https://twitter.com/RadioKitty/status/1378167983097454593

Perhaps the more salient question re this part of Gaetz's (alleged) behavior is goes to the culture of *other men* who do not object to or report sexual trophy hunting, or worse.

There's a really good tiktok (good luck with search terms, I just tried 😱) of a comedian talking about coming to terms with his friend, the rapist, and not confronting the less-but-telling behavior along the way.

We need more men confronting each other, and themselves like that

Ok...found it, thanks to @kerryohkerry. The comedian @Daniel_Sloss. Seems like this clip been taken down a lot, which is too bad b/c he nails it. (I don't know really anything about him or his other work.) tiktok.com/@natalienouvea…

Transcribing: "I believe that deep down most men are good, of course we are. But when one in 10 men are shit, and the other 9 do nothing, they might as well not fucking be there. Being good on the inside counts for absolutely fuck all..."

"You have to actively be good and get involved. Instead of having this fucking hero complex of 'I'm going to beat up a rapist', FUCKING PREVENT ONE. Stop one. Because I know it can be done, because I know I fucking failed at it...."

"...Because if I'm being 100 percent honest with myself, were there signs in my friend's behavior towards women that I ignored? The answer is yes. And then he raped my friend. And that's on me until the day I die...."

"...talk to your boys. Get involved. Because I'm going to be fucking honest with you, women are trying their hardest not to be raped." tiktok.com/@natalienouvea…

As someone on the other end of just this dynamic, and who's had to wrestle with the culpability, or not, of the other men in the friend circle—as have the ones I'm still close to—we'd all be better off just teaching our sons to do better and question/confront.