I have been thinking about why there is no equivalent rape myth of men lying about being raped which has plagued women and girls for centuries. There are several theories as to why a man’s report of rape is taken more seriously than a woman’s report. So I googled both.
It was an interesting exercise.

When I googled that women lie about rape, there were thousands of articles which either supported or rejected the claim.

When I googled that men lie about rape, all articles were about women lying about rape. There were no articles about men.
There were plenty of articles trying to debunk the myth that women lie about rape - but there were none required for men, because that myth/stereotype simply doesn’t exist. There doesn’t need to be a concerted effort to debunk it
What is interesting about this is that there is an assumption that when women report rape, there is the potential for malice and falsehoods, but when men report rape, it must be true because why else would they report it?
It’s obviously assumed that a male rape disclosure is so much more humiliating and traumatic than female rape, that a man just wouldn’t lie about rape at all - whereas women must lie about the prevalence and impact of rape due to being malicious and unstable.
Clearly, a male rape disclosure weighs more and means more than female rape disclosure, despite female rape being on average around 7-10 times more likely.
I think there is some homophobia in here, and a LOT of misogyny.

Often, when a man is raped by another man, it is considered among the worst possible crime a man can be subjected to it admit to being subjected to due to homophobia and toxic masculinity norms.
But when women disclose the same crime of rape by a man, there is no homophobia, there is the normalisation of rape culture, the objectification of women, the normalisation of sexual violence towards them and an assumption that women either 1) led them on or 2) are lying
Thinking about it - if anyone lies about rape, it’s men.

Millions of women are raped per year and yet no men are rapists - because they lie about committing it or knowing any other man who commits it.

Wouldn’t that mean that millions of men per year lie about rape?

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10 Apr
Just read a thread of a man warning people that feminists have a secret evil agenda to get more and more female representation, including female world leaders and females in power.

Like he’s just uncovered a huge secret he’s exposing lmfao
Proper tickled me.

He’s like horrified and feels duty bound to tell other men.
I mean. What the fuck are we supposed to do now?

Sorry sisters, the jig is up
Read 4 tweets
1 Apr
Ok. So if it’s only a ‘tiny minority’ of men. And feminists apparently exaggerate male violence. And it’s extremely rare.

How exactly do 1 in 3 women get raped in the lifespan, 1 in 4 girls sexually abused before 12 years old, 97% of women sexually harassed?

By like 6 dudes?
You don’t need to be a statistician to understand that if women and girls are subjected to male violence at rates of 1 in 3 or 1 in 4... then we clearly don’t have a ‘tiny minority’ of men committing acts of male violence, do we?

It’s not one guy running round like The Flash
It’s like we went from MRAs being like

This never happens!! Women lie!!

To being like

Okay yeah sometimes it happens but only a tiny minority in the world!!

Uhuh. So how do millions of sexual offences get committed per year in the UK?
Read 8 tweets
18 Mar
Loads. But I will always remember a time when I intervened in a racist assault on my close friend as we went to get lunch and the way he said, ‘just leave it Jess, I’m used to it now’ broke my fucking heart. I’ll never forget the tone of his voice as he said it to me.
As a white person, I will never ever understand that tone of voice. I was 21 years old. I just stared at him. I didn’t know what to say. He was just so ‘used’ to being racially abused in the street. We talked about it for hours. Hundreds of experiences. Fucking appalling.
It still sends shivers up me. The way he just sort of looked fucking exhausted and the way he ended up having to like support me instead of the other way around, and reassure ME that he was ok and was used to it.

Real fucking learning for a younger me.
Read 5 tweets
18 Mar
After I posted my blog yday about being subjected to male violence, I just woke up to an email from someone who believes in the ‘cycle of violence’ and has told me that they ‘know’ I must have also committed crime and acts of violence because of what I have been subjected to
Absolutely horrified to get that email. But let me just break this down.

There is no ‘cycle of violence’.

We all make choices. Never bullied anyone. Never harmed anyone. Never been in trouble with the law.

I make an active choice to never be violent.
I made an active choice to be a calm, supportive parent. I try to never lose my temper.

I’m proud that I’ve never perpetuated anything I’ve lived through.

People who use their experiences to excuse their violence are just not ready to accept that they made active choices.
Read 6 tweets
12 Mar
All this is just reminding me of how many cases of male violence I’ve worked on where men got excused for the most fucking ridiculous reasons.

One guy had loads of Cat A images of babies and was spared a custodial or suspended cos he wanted to emigrate to Australia!!
Another guy had sexually abused his infant daughter and filmed the offences and was also spared a custodial because he said he only did it because he was depressed

I mean. What the fuck.
The countless cases I worked on where men had beaten and abused their wives and girlfriends because ‘they pushed their buttons’

Honestly I used to just sit there SEETHING
Read 8 tweets
12 Mar
Just got reminded that when my kid’s teacher retired he made them a card saying BEST TEACHER YET!

When they asked if he meant ‘best teacher ever’

He said no, and said because he was only in year 4 and he hadn’t met all of his teachers yet, he couldn’t make that decision 😂
To anyone thinking this is funny or cute, the reason I know about this is because the teacher called me in about him being ‘rude’ when he said that he hadn’t met all the other teachers yet.
You’ve just reminded me of when I got called into school for his ‘inappropriate behaviour towards a teacher’ and then I found out it was because he asked her ‘what did you do on the weekend? Have you had a nice weekend? How are you today?’ and they said it was ‘too adult’ lmfao
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