I hate when someone I haven't seen for a while asks me what I've been up to because I have no fucking idea what to say. I've been in my house, I don't know. I think about a lot of stuff. I don't even know what I would go out in the world and do anymore? But I'm good
I was trying to think of stuff to say so I said that I'm almost fully vaccinated but then admitted that I don't I think I'm going to start going anywhere, I don't know what I would even go do bc my old life is dead. They were like “oh no that's not true!” but it’s definitely true
I kinda laughed and said, “what am I gonna do, call up my old friends?” I was joking because that seems clearly absurd to me, I don't even remember what I was like before the pandemic. They said it’ll get back to normal soon and I was like oh no i think I'll find a new life
it was clear that everything I was saying sounded depressing but it's not depressing to me, I guess I just have the conversational skills of a zoo animal at this point. Maybe I should hold off catching up with people for another year or so, figure out some different things to say

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I’M SO FUCKING SICK OF PEOPLE THINKING I DON’T HATE MYSELF BECAUSE MY LIFE WAS EASY AND PEOPLE WERE NICE TO ME. I DON’T HATE MYSELF BECAUSE I AM NOT THE PROBLEM. I JUST DON’T WANT TO FUCKING DIE. I DON’T WANT SYSTEMIC ABLEISM TO KILL ME. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU
If you think this, fuck you. You're walking around wounded? I did that, and then I reached the point where I had two choices. I could accept myself and try to create a life I could survive in, or I could die. I fought for this perspective on myself. I sacrificed everything else.
I have had one incredible privilege and it's that my mom loves and accepts me. My neurodivergence isn't a minor part of myself, it's everything I am. I don't have any other part of myself. And even my mom didn't understand why I couldn't make it. Why I couldn't learn to survive
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It's weird to hear people talk about how much they hate their ADHD traits that I also have. it never occurred to me to hate them bc there's no point in hating the basic unchangeable building blocks of yourself. It's like hating that I have a skeleton. My body was built around it
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I don't want to be good at being bored, I don't want to be bored. There is so much fascinating shit to do and learn in this world and people spend so much time on pointless busywork, wasting time, acting like we have eternity on this planet but all the minutes feel precious to me
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I don't understand this obsession with defending internalized ableism about ADHD. Not having ADHD is not an option. That is not on the table. Creating a more universally accessible world & fighting stigma and oppression so people don't have to hate themselves is an option
Let's say for the sake of argument that getting rid of ADHD would make your life better. You can’t! All you can do is make this life better or worse for people with ADHD. You can encourage people to hate themselves or not. Why choose to make this life worse? it's the only option.
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They threw stereotypes at us so we'd run away from them, prove how not autistic we can be to garner their respect. They spend billions on brainwashing us, lying to the public, lobbying doctors, trying to shame us into conformity. But they don't actually know how our brains work
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People keep asking me how I don't mask and honestly it never occurred to me that I should until 7th grade when I decided to figure out all the social stuff. I failed miserably, I just could not figure out what the secret rules were. it sucked and was boring. not worth it
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