Why do some people on who generally put a lot of thought into their stances, and also have ADHD, not bother to learn anything about it and instead share their ableist takes everywhere as though they are an authority?
It makes me so tired! They pull out all the same ableist tropes we hear all the time as though it's new or insightful? Like pal, that's not your originality it's your internalised ableism and you're not "smarter" than everyone or edgy for refusing to deal with it.
I don't understand people who are committed to intellectual rigour in all other aspects of their lives but don't do any critical thinking about their own brain and just internalise everything one doctor told them once or try to claim ADHD isn't a real thing.
Btw not talking about people who disagree with me on things here. There are some really thoughtful people that hold stances very different to mine, and I love reading their reasoning- it deepens my own understanding of things and I often change my opinion bc of this.
I also totally get people venting about ADHD experiences, or people that are new to thinking about ADHD but earnestly trying to learn and engage with the community as they form their own opinions. I also get that people have flippant takes occasionally (myself included).
I'm talking about ADHDers who act as though people who are interested in ADHD and combatting ableism are cringe or naive. It sucks seeing people who take a lot of care with other topics draw on misinformation + assumptions, esp when you know impressionable people will listen.
Sorry this thread is probably overly harsh and I'll probably regret it and delete it but omg it frustrates me so
Fam this isn't about anyone I interact with on here, I'm so sorry! Just inspired by irl events and a few viral tweets I've seen recently. Promise this isn't a subtweet, I'm talking about people thst are intentionally dismissive ❤️❤️❤️
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If you considered and then discounted ADHD because you're academically or professionally successful, but your personal life is an absolute mess, it might be worth reevaluating. Same goes for doing fine until a big life transition.
Me during my Masters: On three major scholarships, acing my writing, volunteering for academic collectives, present in the community.
Also me during my Masters: ten mugs hidden in my draws, wearing unwashed clothing, not messaging friends back for months, dropping all hobbies.
And then after FINISHING my masters (when I told myself everything would be better): listless, daydreamy, losing things constantly, struggling to get started and always feeling three steps behind everyone around me.
I know many disagree with me, but I earnestly don't understand the benefit of only framing ADHD as an exclusively bad thing. To me that just ends up with eugenic thinking about getting rid of ADHD, which would mean getting rid of me as a person. It's intertwined with who I am.
This isn't me trying to be edgy, this is me genuinely reflecting and trying to understand why so many people think challenging the pathologising of ADHD is oppositional to accepting it as a disability. To me they can both exist in unison.
I think "superpower" narratives are harmful. It makes it seem like every ADHDer could be "successful" if they worked hard enough, which is untrue. People who push this always seem to be rich, white, and male, so they have access to implicit accomodations that many of us do not.
This time two years ago I was literally in my uni office, high on my friend's adderall, frantically completing my Masters thesis. I was late to my own birthday dinner, and had to pretend everything was fine, even though I was super out of it. I had no idea I had ADHD.
I had been struggling so badly with hitting my writing goals, that a friend offered me some of her ADHD meds. I said no three times, and then said yes. I didn't know I had ADHD, I just knew that finally I was able to write.
Looking back, she shouldn't have given them to me and I shouldn't have taken them. I didn't know how to take them safely. I didn't make the connection between them working, and me having ADHD. I regularly took more than I should have, because I wanted to get things done FAST.
Something that has been hugely beneficial to me is reframing ADHD outside of a pathologising deficit perspective. How would we describe ADHD if we weren't comparing it to a neurotypical standard? How would we describe it if we didn't implicitly accept that standard as better?
For example, ADHDers often feel like they feel things too deeply. But this world is not a moderate place, the injustices and joys are vivid and significant. Couldn't we also frame the indifference many neurotypicals seem to have as disconnected or unfeeling?
I've seen the ease at which ADHDers share personal information be described as "impulsive", "overbearing" and "self centered". But couldn't that also be seen as being warm, honest and trusting? Couldn't the opposite be pathologised as unsocial and defensively private?
Do you get bored in relationships or are you getting bored of masking bc you're dating people who don't click with your neurodivergence?
It makes me sad seeing ADHDers talk about how they get bored in friendships and relationships. I used to be the same.
After realising I was neurodivergent, I also realised that many of my friendships were fake, bc I was masking my ADHD. Which meant they didn't even know me. Not being yourself and "performing" the role of friend or partner is absolutely exhausting and very very boring.
I feel like I now have enough followers that some people see me as a "big" account and want to challenge my "authority". You should know I have absolutely no authority. I'm just an ADHDer muddling through. Please take everything I say with a grain of salt ❤️
I really love learning about neurodivergence and totally hyperfocused on ADHD when I first got diagnosed. A lot of my friends are neurodivergent, and I love analysing our experiences.
I'm also balancing my job and chronic neck and arm pain right now. That means I'm often flippant on here, or don't have the energy to really unpack what I'm trying to say (or learn enough to say it). I rarely have the pain-free time to respond to everyone that replies to me.