honestly the impulse people have to find veganism alienating and “off” is part of the problem. i’ve been minding my business eating my chickpeas for 12 years and i usually avoid telling people bc they’re cruel & antagonistic about it. the instinct to belittle empathy is a problem
idk why people respond to finding out i’m vegan by being super mean about it and trying to upset me, idk why they want to tell me about all the meat they eat and say they’re gonna eat extra bc i don’t eat it but i’m pretty sure it has something to do with why the world sucks
if i tell someone i’m plant-based or just that i don’t eat meat they ask if i’m an animal rights person or say “thank god you're not one of those animal rights people.” and all along, i haven’t said shit to them besides explaining why i have to politely decline eating something
Many people know me for years without finding out that I'm vegan because people only find out when it is pertinent. i usually will express that i’d rather not discuss it bc it’s important to me and not something i want to debate and they keep talking about it anyway
it’s kinda fucking ridiculous the lengths i go to so i can just eat without people trying to emotionally traumatize me, make fun of me, or get mad at me bc of the stereotype in their head of pushy vegans. why do people get SO angry at the existence of someone who doesnt eat meat?
just existing as a person who feels empathy for a group that society says you don’t have to feel empathy for elicits immediate anger. i think that’s a roadblock to progress in the world a lot more than one word. it’s not the word they hate, it’s me & what i believe in.

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You will understand the autism industry a lot better when you recognize that it's a right wing political movement as well as a cash cow. Neurotypical parents who hate the adult autistic community don't want their autistic kids to become blue-haired trans leftists
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read the whole thing yourself still up on their website bc apparently they’re proud of this shit

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