Thread by @XivTroy

Men are finding companionship hard. Our fathers didn't tell us the whole truth. The obsessive idealization of male frames must be wiped off on the doormat of camaraderie. Maintaining the male frame in a relationship isn't an act of brute force or standing posture, but one of tact

You will apologize more than you will receive an apology. And more often than not, you will be called to initiate the patching up process - even if she wronged you. In a homestead, is an act of leadership to know when to let the sleeping dogs lie.

In a dispute, you have to focus on the problem, she will focus on you. In my experience, I have had to be coldly rational even as she was emotional. It is imperative that you see it as your relationship vs the problem. She will see it as you hurting her.

You can run the world, she runs the home. Unless you are cooking, prying questions on the management of the house cannot be made a habit. Your fathers used to ask after work, "what are we eating today"? It is a silent affirmation/appreciation of the woman's domestic hegemony.

There are two kinds of men in domesticity. Those who, by some warped sense of injustice or infantility, see their wives as entirely irrational,, and those who acknowledge the potency of their wives' contribution. I am addressing the latter, the former need Jesus.

You'll forget, she won't. Women & elephants never forget. It's her last defense & is beyond your spirit. You will sleep happy, & wake up to her frowning face. I have accepted it as the susceptibility of the woman's temperament. You can't beat it out of them, you can wait it out.

Companionship is an entirely new experience for the man, with more compromises than wins. There is no one-for-all solution, there is discernment. Back then you were navigating tangibles applying to all & sundry, now you have to customize your diagnosis beyond the practicalities.

Every once in a while, you will have to go ahead anyway. Many women are risk-averse: security for progeny is primary. If it works, she will take credit. If it doesn't, it will be your fault. If you believe in the propitiousness of the enterprise, go ahead. Credit be damned!

I am a product of companionship. I have borne witness to the auspicious hand of camaraderie. I speak for companionship. Let those who drank from the other well tender their dirges. All monkeys cannot hang on the same branch.