Why "consent" doesn’t stand a chance against porn culture. By Melinda Tankard Reist. abc.net.au/religion/conse… 1/5
The porn industry is a mammoth dispenser of sexualised violence and misogyny; it is the world’s most powerful sexual groomer. […] the porn industry takes pre-existing harmful codes of masculinity and entitlement and turbocharges them. 2/5
The girls’ and young women’s testimonies from the Sydney petition collected by Chanel Contos provide accounts of young men ignoring consent or of forcing something close enough to consent to give the perpetrator plausible deniability. 3/5
Many of the testimonies demonstrate the limitations of the language of “choice” and “consent”. Girls often feel as though they didn’t really have a choice; consent became merely giving in, or passive compliance. 4/5
So, we need serious action to address porn’s influence, as consent education by itself will do little to counter it. abc.net.au/religion/conse… 5/5
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Consenting to touch I didn’t want: One woman’s exploration of how often women give ‘empty consent’ to touch by men they don’t really want or feel ambivalent about, e.g. because fear something worse. nytimes.com/2021/03/31/mag… 1/4
Affirmative consent laws are valuable, but are implemented in a world in which vast numbers of people (women) are conditioned from childhood to consent to touch we don’t want. 2/4
Story of a "cuddle party", with explicit norms of affirmative consent. And how even in this context, women’s internalised compliance can mean that they agree to touch without a genuine assessment of their own desires 3/4
A feminist intersectional approach to engaging men in violence prevention 1/7: Men in different social locations have differential access to social resources and social status. Are privileged on some axes of inequality (including gender) and disadvantaged on others
2/7: Ethnicity and other forms of social difference shape both victimisation and perpetration. E.g., how male perpetrators are treated and viewed is shaped by race/ethnicity. Privileged men’s violence is treated and understood differently from disadvantaged men’s violence
3/7: Violence prevention with *any* group should assume that everyone has culture. Everyone is located in hierarchies of privilege and disadvantage. There are specific cultures of gender and sexuality in every group and community.
Consent apps are useless, and indeed dangerous. Don’t address how: Consent can be forced or pressured. Capacity to consent can be undermined by alcohol or drugs. Gender power differentials mean women often ‘consent’ to sex they don’t want. 1/3
Consent is a process, not a moment or one-off agreement. Consent should be to each sexual activity, at every step, in sexual interaction. Consent apps don’t allow consent to be withdrawn. Don’t allow participants to change their minds, or consent to some activities but not others
Consent apps are a distraction from the real work of tackling sexual violence. Doing this will require comprehensive, systematic primary prevention strategies. What does this look like? Our Watch’s Change the Story framework is a great place to start. ourwatch.org.au/change-the-sto… 3/3
Why do we march? To put pressure on governments. To raise community awareness and shape community norms. To inspire each other and build solidarity and momentum for activism. And because social movement advocacy is a key strategy for social change. 1/4
It is feminist activism that placed violence against women on community and policy agendas. Review of VAW policies in 70 countries over four decades finds the existence of a strong, autonomous women’s movement is a critical factor in the prevention of VAW (Htun & Weldon 2012) 2/4
Violence against women: It is *feminist activism*, more than any other factor, which shapes whether governments adopt substantial measures to address violence against women. Analysis of policies in 70 countries over 1975-2005 finds that this is the most important factor. 3/4
Violence by men against women: Is sustained by cultural and structural factors. Christopher Kilmartin’s book chapter (2015) provides an accessible account. See xyonline.net/sites/xyonline… 1/5
At the top of the pyramid are perpetrators, the minority who are violent towards women. Next, the group of (mostly) men who are the direct facilitators of the violence. They condone, stay silent, don’t intervene. 2/5
Then there are the cultural standard-bearers, people with wide influence and access to large audiences who use this platform to promote gender-based violence. Such as politicians, media commentators. They tap into broadly held cultural attitudes towards women. 3/5
Putting perpetrators in the picture: It is time to see the problems of domestic & sexual violence as the perpetrators’ problem. Conference paper by Flood and Dembele, December 2020. xyonline.net/content/puttin…@DLulabele 1/9
Too often, domestic and sexual violence are framed as passive and perpetrator-free: “A man killed a woman” becomes “A woman was killed by a man” becomes “A woman was killed”. “John raped Mary” becomes “Mary was raped by John” becomes “Mary was raped”. 2/9
Even some prevention language, e.g. “Preventing violence before it occurs” is passive, and again perpetrators and perpetration are invisible. Yet violence involves agency: a person uses violence against another person. 3/9