I can't tell you how often I talk to people these days about setting boundaries at work. Modern work environments give you no signals about what is an appropriate amount of work. So the expectations just keep ratcheting up with no way to draw lines for ourselves.
"I can't take that on right now. I don't have the bandwidth."
"I probably won't get to that until next week."
"I can't be responsible for this unless something else comes off my plate."
"I'm a bit overloaded. I need to talk about handing off some priorities."
These are just some of the phrases you can use to make it clear that you are reaching your limit on work. Depending on your office culture, people still may not respond the way you would like. But you have to make people hear you when you say "no".
I use the term "drawing boundaries" very intentionally. People are going to push those boundaries. There is no universal advice on what to do here. It depends on many factors. Your role, your boss, what kind of company it is, how much leverage you have.
I will say one thing about this that doesn't have a lot of nuance, but needs to be said. Many engineers are very luck that they don't get held accountable for the systems they write. That's not something people actually want, because the stakes are gonna go up real fast.
Aura’s getting the same thing I’ve been getting. People are legitimately mad at this critique. Folks wanna present as “I have $250,000 to invest, but also I am poor”. Help me understand.
It reminds me of a conversation I was having with @operaqueenie recently. It feels like people don’t even register 100s of thousands or even millions as a lot of money anymore. We talk casually about billions of dollars so often that I think a lot of people have lost perspective.
That man makes $60K. That’s not nothing, but it’s not enough to live comfortably in LA. Yet he was literally able to put his hands on a quarter million dollars. Even if it was mostly debt and leverage from Robinhood. Are we acting like that’s normal?
No, they are both assholes. The only reason Jobs was "worse" is because he had tremendous power over many people. He was "worse" because he was allowed to be an asshole to far more people. Which is why we fire assholes now before they become CEO.
White guys are real good at making the case for “Everything is permitted. Unless of course it’s inconvenient for people like me. Then it’s unconscionable.”
It's not being an asshole that's the problem. It's that they want there to be no consequences for being assholes.
When white men talk about freedom it has always been about the freedom to oppress other people. They dress it up in all kinds of different ways. But that's the freedom they feel they were promised. Freedom from consequences.
This is why Republicans talk about "small government". It's only government that can get in the way of capitalists being allowed to actively exploit people for more profit.
I believe we are still introducing a lot of the population to the concept of "a living wage". I think a lot of conservative white people still hear it as foofy liberal jargon. But here it is in stark terms.
I can't say that I truly understand what these conversations sound like among conservative white people. I don't know how the people making 2.15/hr justify that to themselves and continue to go vote for it.
I like how the same cult of personality that created the precarious crypto bubble can tank things just as capriciously. You love to see it.
Elon Musk can destroy billions of dollars of value with a few words. And these clowns don't even get to know what his actual stake in bitcoin is. It's wild.
I didn't know how bad things had gotten with cryptocurrency until I fell down a rabbit hole on youtube recently. There are literally dozens of coins and massive speculation around each. People making their living from giving day-trading advice on cryptocurrency markets.
I don't know y'all. Why do we have to take everything that we think should happen and try to claim it is "easy"? And anybody who's not doing it must be incompetent. That's not healthy. It's okay to acknowledge something as difficult and also say we should still do it.
This person wants to talk about "innovating" in the same breath where they're like "fuck you if you can't handle 40 hours a week of zoom". Come on now.
Some of y'all just wanna get back at people who wouldn't let you work remotely. I get it. This is your time to be petty. Don't let me stop you. I just want folks to know that we can see you, so I hope it's worth it.