#NotAllMen: Some men respond with “Not all men” when they hear about men’s violence against women. Here are 5 problems with #NotAllMen. 1) Nobody was making any claims about “all men” in the first place. Women *know* it’s not all men. 1/4
2) It’s a defensive reaction, focused on men’s hurt feelings and egos rather than the real, widespread problem of some men’s violence against women
3) It’s selfish. It suggests that how men feel is more important than the fear and concern that many women understandably feel. 2/4
3) It’s selfish. It suggests that how men feel is more important than the fear and concern that many women understandably feel. 2/4
4) It’s a sidetracking of the conversation. The discussion isn’t about the men who *aren’t* a problem.
5) It misses the point: the violence that some men do gives all men a bad name. It makes all men a potential threat. 3/4
5) It misses the point: the violence that some men do gives all men a bad name. It makes all men a potential threat. 3/4
So if you’re a man concerned about all men being seen as a threat, join the efforts to end the violence that makes us men seem that way.
For more on what men can do, see xyonline.net/content/what-m…. For more on violence against women as a men's issue, see xyonline.net/content/violen…. 4/4
For more on what men can do, see xyonline.net/content/what-m…. For more on violence against women as a men's issue, see xyonline.net/content/violen…. 4/4
People can find further, longer critiques of "NotAllMen" at the following URL; xyonline.net/content/engagi…. I comment on the deeper issues, e.g. of men's collective responsibility for violence against women, on pp-101-105 of my book on engaging men, FREE at xyonline.net/content/new-bo…
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