My father chose smoking crack over raising his sons.

I had to teach myself masculinity to overcome weakness and anxiety.

Here are 6 lessons I learned about becoming a man.

/THREAD/
If you grew up without a positive male role model, you have to find it through other means:

• Books
• Friends
• Coaches
• Podcasts
• Accounts like @SaveYourSons and @pathtomanliness

Just because you're born without a father, doesn't mean you have to grow up without one.
@SaveYourSons @PathToManliness Having sex with a lot of women doesn't make you masculine.

It's a form of validation.

Men that are lost do this because they don't have a purpose.

Masculinity comes from defining your values and building a world that reflects them.
@SaveYourSons @PathToManliness Masculinity is not toxic.

When wars need to be fought
When buildings need to be built
When food needs to be put on the table

Real men always step up to the plate.

Don't feel shame for being a man.
@SaveYourSons @PathToManliness Build your masculine foundations by doing hard shit:

• Football taught me leadership
• Lifting weights taught me discipline
• Reading books taught me intelligence
• Social situations taught me confidence

You don't inherit masculinity, you earn it.
@SaveYourSons @PathToManliness SJW's and male feminists are "nice" because they don't have the power to be anything else.

True virtue is possessing the power to kill but choosing to be kind.
@SaveYourSons @PathToManliness Traps I've faced over the years that you should avoid:

1) Getting into a relationship before you're happy on your own.

2) Using casual sex as validation for your self-worth.

3) Avoiding things that make you uncomfortable.

4) Trying to be liked by everyone.
To summarize:

1) Find mentors
2) Find purpose
3) Don't feel shame
4) Do hard shit
5) Don't become "Nice"
6) Avoid common traps

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It took me 19 years to find other men on the path of self-improvement

My friend @thedankoe put together a community for just that

If you're into levelling up:

• Mentally
• Physically
• Financially

I could not recommend this community enough

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