That is a recipe for disaster because most people are not worth impressing in the first place
Before u bother trying to build a relationship, do some basic background work and find out if they are worth it
2. PRUNE YOUR CONTACTS
Part of the annual process of elimination is deleting useless contacts from your phone
This is done to prevent unnecessary emotional attachment to old friends
Just because someone has been your friend for 5-10 years does not mean they get a free pass to suddenly complain all day and waste your time
Most people believe that history is a good reason to keep a toxic friend
They are dead wrong
3. BUY THINGS JUST FOR *YOU*
Most people buy items to impress other people
This is another recipe for disaster
Everyone has interests (sports, cars, clothes, drinking, traveling etc.) however these interests should be yours and *yours only*
Go out and try hundreds of activities and find out which ones you actually enjoy. You’ll be surprised
The vast majority of people *say* they don’t care about the opinions of other people
But.
Look at what they *do*
They care about the opinion of others
So do the opposite
If you are going to spend some money on a material item? Great, buy it for yourself only
If you are going to buy something for a friend, great, don’t buy it because u are trying to coax them into something
Just give it to them and move on because it is what you wanted to do in the first place
Money is to be spent on:
1) making more money or 2) making you happier long-term
That is all
4. FIND *LEGITIMATE* MENTORS
'Legitimate' means he invests real time in your success
It means he's actively engaged in your life, not just listening to you
A person that is constantly trying to improve (you) will eventually hit a decision point
Instead of running with his instinct, he calls up a few trusted mentors to gather
ideas on what direction to go in
That is different from someone simply saying “do X” (the fake mentor)
5. BUILD SKILLS IN YOUR 20s
Most people believe that partying and chasing girls until 3 in the morning four nights a week is how u “meet new people”
They even go out and try to run “game” in packs of dudes on the weekend.. during the day! This is wrong.
Think about the people u meet in these environments and you’ll realize that you’re clearly violating rule number 1 by not having a solid screening system
If they are not worth your time go to the tried and tested move to get rid of them: Smile, Nod and agree
After this, delete them from your contacts
And this doesn't mean u become a boring frugal monk.
It means u need to learn to have balance. Go out twice a week (Thu & Sat) and meet attractive women
If you know someone who needs to be lifted up *emotionally* to achieve something... He never wanted it in the first place
He’s simply someone who wishes upon a star for the world to give him something he never deserved
Even worse? He thinks the emotional pump up is good for him
The type of person who gets amped up by written words in a text book or a motivational video, will scour the internet far and wide looking for a solution to his problems