God love us, I showed up for a 3 pm appointment with a new stylist. I really want a professional condition & trim. Anyway, I walked in at 3:05 and ain’t nobody ready. I had forgotten this part 😭😭
Sweet girl. And I’m not mad AT ALL. But momma had a handful of loose hair extensions in her hand talking about it will be about ten minutes. Ma’am. I have been Black all my life. Ten minutes is when you’re holding THE MIRROR.
When you’re holding the rat tail comb and a spray bottle, it’s 25 minutes. When you still have loose hair in your hands???? IT IS AN HOUR.
The semiotics of Black salon time is very precise and highly contextual. I know my signs. Anyway, I knew this in my spirit when I left the house. I’m not getting a cut, am I?
Anyway, if you have a quick but professional salon recommendation (online scheduling a huge plus) that can do semi-regular conditions and blow-outs on natural hair within 20 minutes of Chapel Hill (aka the holy grail), please let me know. I’m going to Target.
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That was the Dryfuss thing. Now to the original news item of Chua et al.
The reason professors at social reproduction institutions - the elite universities designed to reproduce elite status cultures - court the students as “friends” is because they’re courting the parents.
They are correct when they behave as if doing this kind of thing is a perk of the job. The institutions are built that way and implicitly managed that way. Court the young elites for favor with their elders. It’s a professional strategy.
The problem is multi-fold. The elites set the norms downstream. So the guy from grad school is trained in the ways of Harvard but ends up teaching at...not Harvard. That’s one problem.
Many white male colleagues really like to inculcate this. Faculty should not complain about their personal lives to their students because forced intimacy is a violation of institutional trust. They invite you to violate so that they can reciprocate.
You see, if you breach the student-teacher norms first — even if by invitation — then you because the initiator. Then when the teacher-professor violates a norm, they are just following your lead.
White men are especially attracted to this because, frankly, this is in keeping with much of how they interact with the world. An unrequited service to their students is abnormal because they do not serve anyone else in any other capacity.
One thing that is happening is I will be on leave in the Spring teaching a course on platforms and inequality at the University of Geneva! I cannot wait to take the trains.
You haven't lived until you've heard my French. My friend Jade, who is fluent, laughs and laughs and laughs.
I would write with him. I would tour with him. I would want to hear what he has to say. That is more than I can say for almost all of the folks we consider greats.
Katt is every bit as smart as Dave and arguably has better instincts for Black love. Dave is just more legible...to white people and to aspirationally anxious Black people.
Okay, your resident old nerd is back with another viewing recommendation. This Prideland special on @PBS (my local @MyPBSNC) is good viewing. It documents how LGBTQIA communities are living across the South. pbs.org/show/prideland/
Listen, god bless these lesbian folks in Montgomery but I am worried. Whew. "New Montgomery", if you say so.
I have always had a deep distrust for this and you see it everywhere. Jobs (especially academia), online groups, etc. I know the impulse to gain status this way but it is so messy. If you reject this “Good Samaritan” messiness you risk being ostracized by the group. Worth it.