I think it's time to do a thread of different kinds of sexy dude
1. the intellectual/philosopher type
get yourself a turtleneck or otherwise dress preppy
make a lot of prayer hands when thinking, like you're about to drop a rap album
smouldering intense gaze
poast bookshelf
2. the guitar guy
if you have at least one cool action shot you can count on that one and then be derpy/silly with the rest, conveys that you don't take yourself too seriously
you could also write lyrics, wear hats, generally license to be "a creative soul", bard archetype
some nuance here – you don't necessarily have to be entirely in any one archetype, you can sort of mix things up. you can be a musician who's goofy, or you can be a musician who's solemn. or a bad boy. whatever! you get to choose!!! embellish whatever is your actual personality
3. the fit guy
there's many different types of fit guy you could be
should you choose a whole style of fitness just because of the desired vibes and associations? well a lot of ppl do this subconsciously to begin with
just sth to think about
see this is fun, life is an RPG
4. the chef
c'mon
who doesn't want to date a chef
I'd date a chef
feed me sir
even if you look weird fuck it i'll try it if the food has a shot of being great
i'm being sloppy with different classes of categories here but fuck it this is twitter you're not my boss I can do whatever I like
5. bad boy
the cliche exists because it works
not on everyone, but for the ladies who want one...
ok i'm tired, taking submissions, what did I miss
I used to be the guitar guy, these days I'm like the jewelry/aesthetics/business owner/public speaker guy
in the 5+ years I worked for my ex-boss Dinesh, he constantly, casually-yet-intensely would ask me about my goals & desired outcomes
"what do you want to get out of this?"
"how will you measure your progress?"
"what's the next step?"
"what's the limiting factor?"
I've since internalized that stuff so thoroughly, and found it so useful, that I now almost struggle to remember what it was like *before* I installed Dinesh's instrumental thinking module into my mental suite
(I do have old journal entries I can read to simulate it)
the wack thing is, once you internalize this, or a version of this, you look at the world in a completely different way than people who haven't internalized this. and you look around and you see that very few people really internalize this. you can get whiplash from the contrast
549am thinking about my relationship with myself. I would say it’s mostly great, tremendous improvement on every dimension over the past ~15 years, and yet still there is so much more I want to understand about myself, so much about me I do not really know
this is probably the realest reason I have been “almost done” with my book for so long. I have very high standards– unfairly high, I think– and a part of me feels like I must have some personal breakthrough with the book while writing it or it’s not quite “authentic enough”
it’s strange that my life is like this. I could hit publish right now and make a bunch of money and move on with my life, but there’s a HAL-9000 in my head that goes “no Visa, I’m afraid I can’t do that.” And I… have not attempted to negotiate with this guy. Why not? 🤔
nobody has lived thru “50 years and nothing happened” in like... idk, 500 years? Maybe somewhere between 500-1000 AD, idk my history is not that good to make assertions but broadly once we got the printing press everything gets pretty wild from there
got another guy asking for dating advice recently, and a funny thing that stuck with him was sth from my marketing/branding playbook: I asked him to think about the sort of archetype he wants to embody, to imagine how his date would gush about him to her friends in the groupchat
he had never really thought of that before in much detail
guys
this is $10,000+ advice:
think about what kind of impression you want to make
don't invent a fake guy that isn't you
rather, find the coolest/hottest version of you out there and model your version of that
some women are into suave, charming types
some are into quiet, intellectual types
some are into outdoorsy types
some are into indoorsy types
YOU ARE ALREADY SOMEONE'S TYPE. you just need to present yourself accordingly
you know something cool that might not be obvious to non-marketers
if you have a website and you are judicious about putting together images and links and attributing stuff, google does reward you for it
I once nerded out about singapore expressway maps for a while
and a strange consequence of that is, I get search traffic to my site for "singapore expressway maps", because I collected a bunch of images I could find
on bing I even seem to be ahead of wikipedia, lol
"I have lately felt a pressing need to understand Singapore’s road map."
as you can see I have a lot of opinions about maps