Thread by @AutSciPerson

Autism professionals:

You are no longer allowed to use the phrase

"Social Skills."

If you're trying to teach an autistic person to do things neurotypicals do, you must use the term

Neurotypical Social Skills.

Autistic People Have (Autistic) Social Skills. We're Not Robots.

Here's a list of "Neurotypical social skills" -
1. Talking without providing information or substance.
2. Asking someone a question without wanting to know the answer.
3. Lying.
4. Looking at someone else's pupils while hearing that person's voice.

5. Not bringing things up that bother you.
6. Complaining about someone, usually a friend, who is not currently there, to a person who is.
7. Doing things that don't have a purpose.
8. Not examining why nonsensical/inefficient things are done the same way over and over again.

9. Saying things in a different way when someone said they didn't hear -the words- you said.
10. Misinterpreting autistic people's body language and tone of voice by using your own standards of judgment and assuming everyone's the same.
11. Adding words to other people's words.

Can I just say that I really love how neurotypicals are in the mentions trying to say that they don't do these things and describing them in a softer way (i.e. "it's not lying, it's being tactful").

Yea, that's an example of neurotypical social norms. 😉

Leaving this here if you found this thread helpful, and want to help some autistic people soundproof their space -
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[When I said "you must" -

I mean you must say "neurotypical social skills" unless your goal is to make autistic people grow up feeling like they are defective human beings whose brains are broken and wrong.]