Please remember that any "therapy" for an autistic child, even when it's not labeled as ABA (it could be anything - occupational therapy, play therapy, art therapy, music therapy, speech and language therapy)
Any therapy can be doing ABA.
Always ask to sit in on the session.
ABA has been seeping into nearly everything.
Any therapist that works with autistic kids could be doing ABA therapy and compliance. Absolutely any.
I wish it wasn't true but it is. Always sit in on the therapy sessions & don't trust "it'll be more effective without you there."
If you are open about being against ABA, planned ignoring, & rewards for compliance,
They may not do ABA while you are there, but once you are out of sight they may use that.
Please be careful. Let your child know it is okay to leave a session & tell them the signs of ABA.
Are you going to do any more informative sessions for how to apply aside from the ones you already did (that were on June 7th and June 10th) .@NEXTforAUTISM ??
Were you planning on advertising these sessions to autistic-led nonprofits?
I implore any autistic-led nonprofits to apply for these funds, as long as you are helping with transition services, housing, social, or employment services.
but it's really weird that society, to some extent, tolerates "tomboys" until they hit puberty, and then suddenly are told they need to or will "grow out of it" & will become a completely different person.
I was very blindsided by that one.
A lot of it was by "friends" or hearing other adults talk about that being a "phase" and I'm sure it was part of why I was bullied at school as well.
Even in college one of my "friends" told me that I would grow out of wearing cargo shorts - literally because she did herself.
And when I ever showed interest in any clothing remotely more feminine than what I wore around my friends, all eyes and attention were on me. Made me never want to try anything.
If you're trying to teach an autistic person to do things neurotypicals do, you must use the term
Neurotypical Social Skills.
Autistic People Have (Autistic) Social Skills. We're Not Robots.
Here's a list of "Neurotypical social skills" - 1. Talking without providing information or substance. 2. Asking someone a question without wanting to know the answer. 3. Lying. 4. Looking at someone else's pupils while hearing that person's voice.
5. Not bringing things up that bother you. 6. Complaining about someone, usually a friend, who is not currently there, to a person who is. 7. Doing things that don't have a purpose. 8. Not examining why nonsensical/inefficient things are done the same way over and over again.
I've had a thought I've been mulling over the last few days about parenting autistic kids and emotional regulation.
I'm not sure if I agree with myself yet, but here's my take at the moment -
Parents often place limits on their kid, just generally.
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This can include when the kid eats, when they go to bed, when they have to brush their teeth, when they have to do homework, when they can do activities they like, etc.
And yes, of course much of that is often necessary especially for young kids.
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Emotional regulation and figuring out what your body needs to be stable is hard for anybody, period.
Often for autistic people it can be harder for any number of reasons, many that I've gone into before on here.
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I am very tired of seeing the exclusion of autistic trans men in these conversations.
1. Autistic nonbinary people don't all grow up being perceived as girls. 2. Autistic trans men exist & should be allowed to talk about their experiences being perceived as a girl growing up 1/3
3. The idea that we should only include women and nonbinary people in the autism discourse is just really weird on so many levels. Some autistic cis men mask! Fun fact!
4. Just say marginalized genders if you want to talk about experiences outside of autistic cis men!
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5. Regardless of someone's gender (such as nonbinary people and trans men) they may still be perceived as a woman in society depending on what they look/sound like! (Yes even an autistic trans man!)
Stop slapping the "women and nonbinary" label on and calling it a day, everyone.
This thread/offer is for parents who have autistic kids with auditory sensitivity & have financial hardship,
to help buy acoustic foam/soundproofing for their room or space.
Please share -
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The ko-fi account I made had the specific goal to give acoustic foam to autistic kids and their families who need it.
Thanks to a generous donation recently, I can help 2-3 families with this currently.
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I plan on continuing to do this whenever I get donations to that account,
So if the autistic person in your family is really highly in need of soundproofing due to auditory sensitivity, such as conflicting access needs/noisy home and can't move locations,
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