As an Episcopalian, I really try not to talk bad about my Anglican siblings in the ACNA because I came into Anglicanism after the split and I did not live through the tense times and really don’t think it’s a good look for me to critique them because of how some might perceive it
I am going to make an exception to my general rule right now, because…well.
So while y’all were out here worried about what the Southern Baptists might say and do, the Anglican Church in North America somehow managed to our SBC the SBC.
I don’t know who was in the room advising the ACNA Archbishop when he formulated his remarks at their Provincial meeting this past week (which seems to be at the same time as the SBC, ironically), but this ain’t it fam.
Archbishop Beach’s sentiments show where his biases lie. He, ostensibly, seems to bring correction to both sides of the vitriol he describes…except he doesn’t.
His remarks about CRT and racism shows that he seems to care more about what people post on social media than about the white Christian Nationalism in the streets.
White male Anglicans have literally made sexist, racist, and misogynistic remarks about Anglican CLERGY.
But Archbishop Beach is more concerned about clergy “emoting” on socials than dealing with the actual misogyny, racism, and Christian nationalism in his own denomination.
I just want to take a beat and say that, when I was considering becoming ACNA, I was welcomed by many lovely clergy and laypeople.
But I also want to say that I have seen nationalism, classism, elitism, racism, misogyny, all on display in ACNA also.
I had one particularly jarring experience in a church within Archbishop Beach’s own diocese.
Anyway, the ACNA out Southern Baptist-Ed the Southern Baptists.
Imagine having an entire denomination/movement as a captive audience and as a denominational leader you don’t say Jack Spit denouncing white nationalism.
Imagine having a captive audience, and you don’t say Jack Spit about showing respect for women clergy and how sexism and misogyny won’t be tolerated in your denomination.
Imagine having a captive audience, and you don’t say Jack Spit calling your white siblings to not be racist, but instead Miss Millie your way through elevating your denominations efforts to include Black clergy and churches.
Imagine fighting to be called Anglican, and being under African Primates, and not saying Jack Spit about colonialism and racism.
It’s the lack of self-awareness for me.
It’s the coddling white supremacy for me.
It’s the ignoring sexism for me.
It’s the lack of cultural fluency for me.
Anyway, I don’t like to shoot for people—and to be clear, I’m not coming for Archbishop Beach personally—nor do I always like to name names and institutions that I’m not part of like this. But anyway.
I need for my Anglican siblings to do better.
And I know that the Anglicans got some theobrogians who like to argue with and put down Black people and women. Y’all can keep that to yaself.
Yesterday I celebrated sixteen years of marriage. I want to attempt to offer sixteen pieces of unsolicited relationship advice that’s worked for us…
1. Avoid people for whom marriage or being in a relationship is a personality trait, because they are frequently toxic.
I know this will make some folk mad, but I mean it. If they don’t have a personality besides talking about marriage, they are unhealthy.
2. Use your words. The other person doesn’t know how you feel unless you tell them. They shouldn’t have to guess or divine. If you can’t use words establish a clear line of communication.
My spiritual practices are what have kept me grounded during this difficult time. Is there interest in a thread where I share some of my spiritual practices?
FYI: These are Christian practices, but there might be some things that anyone can find useful.
Ok so there is definitely interest. I’m pretty sure y’all will get tired of it but here we go.
I again want to state that these practices and some of my recs that go with them are overtly Christian but some can be adapted.
So first of all, I am a dyed in the wool Pentecostal and Charismatic that has become an Episcopalian. I have some intersections with the Baptist, Lutheran, and AME traditions. I was introduced to more of the Catholic and Orthodox traditions while I was in seminary.
As a lot of y’all know, I grew up in a small rural town in the Midwest.
I was at my 15th year high school reunion a couple years ago, which was on the patio of one of the local taverns.
Suddenly a country song started to play and EVERYONE, and I mean EVERYONE, started losing their minds. Now there had been OTHER country songs playing. But people lost their minds after the first note on this one.
Me, being the lone negro (none of my other black classmates were there but anyway), started looking around for an explanation. I even looked to my husband, who also grew up in my town and is white but seriously uncultured, and he seemed to know what the song was.
It’s funny how, when Black people leave toxic church spaces we are the ones called “divisive.” We always have to bear the weight of judgment and have to explain ourselves.
When you see Black people leaving a predominantly white church space en masse, you should be asking...
Why are so many people walking away? Why are their stories all similar or exactly the same? Why is this not being addressed by leadership? Why does it feel like it’s being swept under the rug? Why is Black folks’ departure deemed as their issue or fault?
Why does the leadership of my church or organization only take the slightest of responsibility (if any at all)? Why do the sermons end teaching in my church seem to change for a season directly after departures? Why are the Black folks who remain given promotions or visibility?
So the Chipmunks movie where they’re in a ballon race with the Chippettes and there’s a baby penguin they’re taking to it’s mother. There is a specific scene that gets me. I literally only ever saw the movie once then a couple years ago the clip circulated and it destroyed me.
Also, the Brave little toaster was a lot for me TBH.
I know that the question was as a kid, but no cap Toy Story 3 upset me so badly. From the very beginning. I fought fears the whole movie and when it got to the end I cried. I literally wept leaving the theater while all the kids there were happy. Still can’t watch it.
As someone who has embraced a more progressive and “liberal” part of the Christian tradition, I can fully attest that this is true. I’m sure that some of my friends who knew me at a different part of life feel that o have changed. But no.
I went to seminary at an institution that I would not consider at all progressive, though I had many professors who were. But I learned how to read and understand scripture in a much different and healthier way in seminary.
I didn’t lose faith or orthodoxy. I learned even more how to think and how to be a Christian. I learned so much.
I am so thankful for the opportunities I’ve had to think about and explore my faith.