Are you falling prey to narcissists?
Are you tired of being gaslighted, invalidated, and devalued?
Are you fed up with the contempt, the mockery, and the disdain?
Then read this to stand firm against them.
12 Habits to Become Resilient to Narcissists
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Are you tired of being gaslighted, invalidated, and devalued?
Are you fed up with the contempt, the mockery, and the disdain?
Then read this to stand firm against them.
12 Habits to Become Resilient to Narcissists
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1. Own Your Truth
Let no one cast a doubt on your truth.
Always give yourself the benefit of doubt.
Stop giving others undue credit.
They are not always as smart or credible as you think.
The moment someone tries to invalidate you, step back.
Mark them before it's too late.
Let no one cast a doubt on your truth.
Always give yourself the benefit of doubt.
Stop giving others undue credit.
They are not always as smart or credible as you think.
The moment someone tries to invalidate you, step back.
Mark them before it's too late.
2. Stop Falling for Charm
Charm is like perfume.
If someone wears it too heavy, probably they haven't showered.
Pay close attention when someone plays larger than life.
Try to see through the mirage.
Pay attention to the actual words, not how they are being said.
Charm is like perfume.
If someone wears it too heavy, probably they haven't showered.
Pay close attention when someone plays larger than life.
Try to see through the mirage.
Pay attention to the actual words, not how they are being said.
3. Credentials Are Not Everything
Educated and smart people can be toxic and cruel as well.
Education doesn't automatically make them virtuous.
Don't give them the benefit of doubt just because they are smarter than you.
Place more value on kindness and compassion instead.
Educated and smart people can be toxic and cruel as well.
Education doesn't automatically make them virtuous.
Don't give them the benefit of doubt just because they are smarter than you.
Place more value on kindness and compassion instead.
4. Don't Bend Over for the Rich and the Successful
The rules don't differ for the rich and the successful.
Don't assume that they are better than you.
Do that and you create a power imbalance.
That makes it much easier for them to gaslight you.
The rules don't differ for the rich and the successful.
Don't assume that they are better than you.
Do that and you create a power imbalance.
That makes it much easier for them to gaslight you.
5. Watch How They Treat Others
Narcissists are masters at being two-faced.
They put on a great public face.
But behind the closed doors, they treat the people closest to them horribly.
Pay attention to how they talk about others.
Soon that will be how they talk about you.
Narcissists are masters at being two-faced.
They put on a great public face.
But behind the closed doors, they treat the people closest to them horribly.
Pay attention to how they talk about others.
Soon that will be how they talk about you.
6. Learn the Tells
Watch how they behave when they are frustrated or disappointed.
That's their tell.
The charm melts away.
Their rage and contempt show their ugly face.
Believe them when they show you that side.
Don't make excuses for them.
Watch how they behave when they are frustrated or disappointed.
That's their tell.
The charm melts away.
Their rage and contempt show their ugly face.
Believe them when they show you that side.
Don't make excuses for them.
7. Set Strong Boundaries
Make a habit of saying "No".
Do not succumb to their demands just because they act entitled.
Better to tolerate their discomfort than to give in and be used again and again.
Learn here:
Make a habit of saying "No".
Do not succumb to their demands just because they act entitled.
Better to tolerate their discomfort than to give in and be used again and again.
Learn here:
https://twitter.com/ResilienttHuman/status/1411746135157313536
8. Dump the Enablers
Narcissists are only part of the problem.
The enablers are the rest.
They are the ones who continue to keep you entangled even when you try to break free.
They themselves are victims. But they are still living in denial.
Distance yourself from them.
Narcissists are only part of the problem.
The enablers are the rest.
They are the ones who continue to keep you entangled even when you try to break free.
They themselves are victims. But they are still living in denial.
Distance yourself from them.
9 . Stop Giving Second Chances
Second chances give narcissists their power.
You don't need to cut off with the first instance of contempt or rage.
But be on the watch.
See if it was just one time or a pattern.
Distance yourself once you find that pattern,
Second chances give narcissists their power.
You don't need to cut off with the first instance of contempt or rage.
But be on the watch.
See if it was just one time or a pattern.
Distance yourself once you find that pattern,
10. Build a Support System
Connect with good and kind people.
They will validate you and have your back.
They will be your source of empathy and kindness that the narcissist denies you.
This is the most potent antidote to narcissists.
Connect with good and kind people.
They will validate you and have your back.
They will be your source of empathy and kindness that the narcissist denies you.
This is the most potent antidote to narcissists.
11. Be Okay with Some Loneliness
Seeing a narcissist for who they are can be lonely.
You will feel isolated.
You will get called out for being difficult.
Become comfortable with that.
Resist going with the flow.
That's how you lose a lifetime to narcissistic abuse.
Seeing a narcissist for who they are can be lonely.
You will feel isolated.
You will get called out for being difficult.
Become comfortable with that.
Resist going with the flow.
That's how you lose a lifetime to narcissistic abuse.
12. Find a Purpose in Your Life.
A purpose keeps you going even in the most severe conditions.
Find it as soon as possible.
It can be:
- work
- children
- creative pursuits
And never ever share it with the narcissist.
Learn how:
A purpose keeps you going even in the most severe conditions.
Find it as soon as possible.
It can be:
- work
- children
- creative pursuits
And never ever share it with the narcissist.
Learn how:
https://twitter.com/ResilienttHuman/status/1400074876912734209
Today narcissists are everywhere.
Society creates them and even glorifies them
But if you follow even some of this advice, you will become more resistant to narcissists.
And you will be able to close the gates to the new toxic people from arriving in your life.
Society creates them and even glorifies them
But if you follow even some of this advice, you will become more resistant to narcissists.
And you will be able to close the gates to the new toxic people from arriving in your life.
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