Thread by @ResilienttHuman

How to Rebound from Grief and Find Hope Again

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Let's talk about grief.

It's a natural response to someone or something that you valued or loved.

Yet, with something so natural, so much myth exists:

"Men don't grieve as much as women."
"You absolutely have to shed tears."
"You have to be sad all the time."

And more...

So how do you actually process grief?

How can you bounce back in a healthy way?

How can you find hope again?

I'll come to that in a minute...

But before we get there, here are a few ways in which grief manifests:

- irritability
- fear and anxiety
- shock and confusion
- guilt over things unsaid and undone
- sadness, loneliness, despair, anguish
- anger at yourself, God, the doctors, the one you lost

That's not all. Grief can also show up as:

- worry
- fatigue
- rumination
- fantasizing
- weight loss/gain

There is no single, correct, one-size-fits-all way to grieve.

We all grieve in our own unique ways.

Here's what you can do to cope with grief in a healthy way...

1. Don’t Time-Limit your Grief

Some say grief should last only for a year.

Some say you should start to feel better after a week.

Nonsense.

There are no "should"s when it comes to grief.

Putting artificial deadlines like that only harms you.

2. Don't Compare with Others

Comparing your grief with others and judging yourself is not helpful.

No two people can experience the same nature of loss.

So it's pointless.

And it invalidates your pain.

Instead, just let time take its healing course.

3. Block some Time for Intentional Grieving

When you run away from your sadness

it only makes your grief come back stronger.

So what do you do?

You turn the script around.

Set some time intentionally to grieve.

It validates your pain and suffering.

4. Seek Social Support

Seek to spend time with friends and family.

Try doing some activities you enjoy with them.

Feeling connected helps more with your healing.

And don't feel pressured into talking about your pain when you don't want to.

5. Embrace other emotions

Sorrow will always be there at the back of your mind.

But give other emotions a chance as well.

- It's ok to be happy sometimes.
- It's ok to be angry.
- It's ok to feel afraid.

Be self-compassionate enough to embrace the full range of your emotions.

6. Care for Yourself

Don't give up on yourself while grieving.

Make these things a priority:

- diet and nutrition
- exercise
- sleep

Maintain a routine even if you don't feel like doing them.

You will bounce back much quicker.

Grief is something that everyone has to go through in their life.

Give it time.

Be compassionate and patient with yourself.

And soon, there will be light at the end of the tunnel.

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