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Alexandre Philippe

13 Jul, 14 tweets, 2 min read

What's a #GrowthBuddy ?

You'll see me often talking about my growth buddies in my tweets

That might leave you puzzled

This thread will explain you what I mean 👇

1/ The core quality of a growth buddy is the "growth mindset", as defined by Carol Dweck

It's the contrary of learned helplessness.

You are empowered by failures instead of discouraged by them.

2/ When you have a growth mindset, you don't think your failures define you (fixed mindset), they are just a temporary thing.

Which makes it possible to talk about your struggles in a very whole hearted way

3/ Having a growth buddy is a reflexive practice

You support your growth buddy

And he/she will support you in return

4/ You will need to schedule regular check-ins with your growth buddy

One time per week is a great practice

One time per day is even better if you can make it!

5/ A deep connection is paramount in a growth buddy pair

Face-to-face conversations work best

The second best option is by phone

Try to avoid text-only communications

6/ A great growth buddy will have many positive impacts on your side hustle pursuits

7/ There are 4 main benefits to having a growth buddy :
- Emotional support
- Accountability
- Insight
- Meta-cognition

8/ Emotional support keeps your morale high in the face of difficulties

9/ Accountability helps you better focus on your goals

10/ Insights happen as your buddy shares new perspectives on your projects, and make you discover new resources

11/ Meta-cognition is facilitated as your buddy will help you reflect on your psychological patterns and habits

12/ You don't need to be a successful entrepreneur or a talented coach to be a growth buddy.

But you do need to work on your listening skills.

13/ If you like the idea of having a growth buddy, please retweet this thread.

That would encourage me to write a full fledged article to elaborate on the subject.

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1/ The common reaction here is to come to her rescue by giving your own solutions.

This is especially tempting when your buddy is in distress.

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1/ First, let's be careful with "progress", as it is not always that easy to measure.

Particularly for insight problems, where it is often difficult to determine whether any progress at all has been made until the problem is essentially solved.

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1/ Some people can get extreme when it comes to following-up on their goals.

Like scheduling a shaming tweet early in the morning, just to make sure they wake up on time to cancel it.

Or betting money using apps like StikK.

2/ It's common to hear people longing for a "kick in the ass" to help them cure procrastination.

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1/ If you're doing productivity check-ins for the first time, pairing-up with a friend or someone in your social circle makes sense.

It's usually easier to reach out to someone you know and get personal with him/her.

But beware of the comfort zone.

2/ I stayed 3 years with the same buddy.

Initially, it was nice to build a deep and strong relationship together.

And we learned a lot, while figuring out how to do productive check-ins.

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