If you think you are a failure, here's a weird 3-minute take on the other side of it...

A thread on failure and our weird relationship with it
If you think you are a failure, you are probably right.

That itself, makes you successful in the first place.
If you think you are a failure, what makes you think so?

The society's definition of failure?
What your parents thought you could do?
Or something you couldn't achieve in your day?
Let's talk about yourself first.

If you think you are a failure, you have:
- Walked hundreds of thousands of miles
- Ran beyond what you could imagine
- Gone for treks / mountain climbing expeditions

After falling down hundreds of times at the age of 1, while trying to walk
If you think you are a failure, you are probably wrong.

Because each time you thought you were a failure, life shaped itself in a way you couldn't not succeed.
If you think you are a failure, it is a false judgement to yourself.

Each time our parents tell us "I told you," we grow distant from them, yet we keep telling "I told you" to ourselves all of the time!
If you think you are a failure, here's what you have handled so far:

- Childhood trauma
- Unmanaged finances to managing finances
- Broken heart
- Beating from a teacher
- Living alone for the first time
If you think you are a failure, think of those who look up to you for being inspired.

You already know who they are. How would they think of themselves when they'll know what you think of yourself?
If you think you are a failure, go to:
- All the posts of Instagram you created while in pain
- All the certificates of LinkedIn
- And most importantly, all the journal entries of life lessons
If you think you are a failure, see how hard you have become on yourself.

When did this happen, my friend?

When did this happen?
If you think you are a failure, you are probably comparing yourself to society's definition of success and failure.

Who, anyway, are looking up to you, to show them how world works.
Lastly, if you think you are a failure, I want to leave you with just one thing:

We become what we think about.
NOT most of the time, rather ALL of the time.

Our mind is our loyal servant.

Why do you think you are a failure, when all you (rightly) want is success?
Imposter Syndrome is real.

But what is more real is the courage you have, that:
- Makes you get out of bed, despite mental health issues
- Makes you confident that you'll figure it out
- Makes you trust people, while figuring how to trust yourself
It is about how you talk to yourself.

It is all about what you talk to yourself.

It is all about whether you even talk to yourself.

Our words tear people down, or build them up.
But before them, they tear or build ourselves up.

Up to us.

Fin.

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