Have you ever been in a relationship where the other person doesn’t acknowledge your influence after they took on your taste in everything from music, food, books and even aesthetics. Songs that were once your song somehow became “our song”. This is what happens with enmeshment.
There is no separation due to lack of personal boundaries in the relationship. So of course things get absorbed. They actually can not recognize the outside influence because they experienced it as if it came from within. Because your energy was in their space influencing them.
Even in the cases where someone is consciously aware of the positive influence you had on them becoming the version they now are, most people make agreements when they get into a new relationships that they are not allowed to acknowledge past partners. Not without being punished.
Wow this particular example is a big trigger for a lot of people! If it’s helpful ignore the example and focus on the subtle. Which is looking at how things get absorbed unconsciously. It’s not about music, books, arts it’s about how lack of boundaries creates reality distortion
When you know something is off but you can’t pinpoint why, this is often a call to go deeper. The mind will gaslight your intuition by saying why should I care, what does it matter. But your intuition is trying to show you a pattern. So you can transform it.
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