Thread by @Delafina777

ah yes, the most white, male, Christian reaction in the world

if someone says I said something antisemitic/sexist/racist, etc. instead of doing any self-examination I'm going to freak out and accuse them of being in bad faith

https://twitter.com/JonHammond1701/status/1416536214505668609

literally nothing is going to change for the better unless people with privilege:

1) understand that having your behavior called racist/sexist/antisemitic/etc. is not somehow worse than BEING that thing

2) learn to sit with the discomfort hearing that causes

like, so someone says a thing you said was racist/sexist/etc.

STOP PANICKING

you're not going to die, you're not fucking "cancelled" or whatever

take a deep breath

first, someone saying, hey, that thing you said was kind of racist/sexist/etc. is not the same as saying that the sum total of who you are is A MUSTACHE-TWIRLING BIGOT

second, racism and sexism and all kinds of other -isms are baked into the society we live in, so yeah, it's very possible you said a thing that made some bad assumptions

it's okay to not be an expert on all of them

hell, I don't even know EVERY antisemitic dogwhistle

so instead of freaking out at the person who pointed it out, take a deep breath, remember that you won't fucking DIE just because you said something problematic, and learn from the moment

because the way so many of us react in the moment, from a place of panic, means that we end up making the person who pointed it out handle our emotions

and that, friends, is some bullshit

especially when that person is marginalized

you don't make someone you harmed then deal with your guilt about having harmed them